subject: How To Stop Divorce (even If Your Husband Cheated On You) [print this page] I know my husband cheated on me but I can't just stop loving him. I want to stop my divorce. How on earth do I make that wish come true? It's a tall order but you can stop your divorce and save your marriage. Here are a few things you need to remember.
Yin and Yang
You can't just turn off all the emotions you feel and distance yourself from the people you have caused you great pain. If that happens, it will make your life so much easier to deal with, no feelings. But, don't forget, life is not life at all if we can't feel the pain and joy of being a human.
There is an ancient Chinese concept of yin yang. It basically means that things that seem to be complete opposites like please and pain actually depend on each other. For instance, it's hard to truly appreciate pleasure if you've never experienced pain.
If you can cut yourself off emotionally so that you don't experience the painful side of relationships, you'll miss out on the exquisite pleasure that is part of loving someone and being loved by that person in return.
Savoring the Happiness
Here's more. We hurt those people we love because we know that they love us as well. You feel really hurt when you've found out that your husband cheated on you because of the love you feel for him.
His act of cheating didn't effectively end the emotional connection between the two of you. It didn't erase the years of love the two of you have shared.
The question now is this: How do you bring back the good things together and win his attention back to you? Here's how:
1.Sit down and remember all the good things you have shared together. The more good memories you have in store, the better you are prepared to welcome new and better memories with him together.
2.Work things out. It is better you let him know that you are serious, really serious in working things. He may be your husband but he can't read what's on your mind. Let him know that you are giving him another chance in your life.
3.Take it slow. Don't rush. Both of you need time to heal the wounds of the past especially the possibility of getting a divorce. It seems that divorce is the best answer but when reality sinks in, you will have to think of things that need to be considered, financially and emotionally.
