subject: You've Just Cheated On Your Spouse: Here Are 3 Reasons To Take Things Slow [print this page] Cheating on your spouse is no small thingCheating on your spouse is no small thing. Doing this has had dire consequences for many relationships over the centuries. It's not enough that this scenario is prime fodder for victim advocacy programs, women's television, and late night movies.
This time around, right in your own living room, the same is taking the center stage and with you on the spot light. However you are not the expert in making things right in here. You would want to make things right immediately and fix everything at once. The thing is you will probably just go back in hot waters.
It is good to take things slow if you're into repairing the damage that's done to the relationship by cheating. Below are some reasons why taking things slow is the right choice for you at this time:
1)It is true; those who rush in are fools. In taking things slowly, there is a chance to see potential pitfalls prior moving into them knee deep. Slowly, enjoy the getting to know process all over again. There are relationships that in the end failed because it all seemed like a big rush into the altar. You know better that you deserve more than that. Take things slowly this time and enjoy the beauty of a relationship that is built to last.
2)Consider how it all started before by going back again at the beginning. This is a lot easier to understand if you have experienced reading a 'slow' book. You may have noticed that there are books that once you have started you get hooked immediately that you never noticed you came to last page as if nothing had happened at all. There are also times were you can only take so much and yet you are finding it difficult to continue reading the book to the last page. And there are times that all you need to do is to go back to the first page and discover the beauty of what you are reading. And all you need to do is go back right at the start. The same is true with some of the relationships. If you had cheated on your spouse it is probably a good idea to go back right from the start so that you may appreciate what you have - or have the potential to have with your spouse in your side.
3)If you take things slow this time around you have the time to fix problems as they arise instead of rushing through and glossing over them. Not dealing with problems in the relationship is the likely culprit behind your cheating to begin with. Avoid that and have fewer mistakes and problems this time around. If you want your opportunity for happily ever after you're going to have to learn to really dig down to the root of problems as they arise and solve them quickly.
