subject: Four Ways To Spice Up Your Bedroom [print this page] You don't know what happenedYou don't know what happened. You both gave your all but one day you just weren't happy.
Join the club. Shit happens in relationships and there really is no explanation for it.
Hence the high divorce rate.
One day you wake up and your irritated. Your sex life is boring, and the way things are going for the both of you seems to suffer because of it.
You kiss, he sucks your nipple, you get on top, he hits it from the back a little and POOF.. your done.Same routine every time.
But for some reason neither of you can figure out what to do. Before you go looking for help from another person outside of the relationship why don't you bring something new to the table.
A SEX TOY
You might be thinking "NO I'LL NEVER USE ONE OF THOSE THINGS" but hell, what do you have to lose.
I KNOW!!! Your relationship.
You both are already bored and if it works it works, if not then oh well. I'll give you three ways to get the party started that will save your relationship.
Thank me later
Seduction Required
You wouldn't want someone to just pull their penis out and have sex you would you? Well, maybe you would.. but for all intents and purposes you might wanna make things a little seductive when you use the toy. Don't just whip it out and stick it in etc..you gotta make it SEXY. Do some foreplay and slowly integrate it into your sex play. Just throwing it on the bed is boring. Use some passion and suspense.
NOT JUST FOR HER
Yes, sex toys are not just for the women. Men can use them as well. I'm not talking about sticking a toy up your rectum (Hey if thats your thing then do it) but I'm saying make it a game for both of you. You could do things like putting a rabbit in your panties and grinding on your man to add that needed BOOST. Men get aroused by vibration as well. While your chasing the rabbit he can get some enjoyment as well.
Know What Your Doing
Many people say they didn't like the toys and they didn't get the enjoyment out of it that they were hoping for. Well.. why didn't you? Maybe because they were using it incorrectly. Here is a tip. Figure out how you cum and get a toy the coincides with that. For instance, if you like g-spot orgasms then get a g-spot stimulator..etc.
After you get the toy, go online, google some videos on it, and get some tips on how to use it. Its not what you do but how you do ita toy is no exception to this rule.
LET THE PASSENGER DRIVE
Let your partner use the toy on you instead of you. Its a trust experience if nothing else. Letting go of the wheel and letting them drive can be a great experience. Personally, I like it better when my lover uses the toys on me instead of me using them on myself. Do this and it will be great for both of you. You will be getting your mate involved and they will "get off" on seeing you get your orgasm. WIN WIN situation if you ask me.
The things that break up most relationships is monotony and boredom. Some will disagree with me and say cheating or loss of interest are the leading factors. That may be true but those things are caused by boredom.
Either you will love the toy or you won't, but either way you will be doing something together and you'll be growing intimacy in your relationship.
