subject: Depression In Your Marriage [print this page] Every one wants to lead a happy and beautiful married life. Marriage is the most special moment in any body's life. Except that they do not know what responsibilities it comes with. Ignoring about how to lead life after getting married, potentially creates depression in ones life.
Many are not prepared for life after marriage. Hence, come out of disillusion soon as the wedding and honey moon are over. Then they begin to realize realistic picture regarding married life and responsibilities it come with.
They are not ready or prepared mentally to execute their responsibilities. It leads them to constant quarrelling over a range of issue and indulges in petty fighting more often. This may also create misunderstanding among the husband and wife. Further, each spouse starts taking decision in their marriage according to their perception. This makes them even more apart from each other.
They will view each other as competitor rather than husband and wife. Take decision as they felt correct their way. Soon such activities will become a daily routine in their life. Thus, draining them completely and making life miserable.
Such relationship are very hard to continue. It would be far fetch, when both spouses will start to take u turn against their marriage and put it in divorce papers. Since they are experiencing so much of depression due to in quarrel in their life, they prefer to stay alone than to continue.
Depression come into spouse experiencing tension in married life. Depression is irregular grief, low mood behavior affecting a person for very long time interval. Different Types of Depression are suffered by various people around the world of different ages. Depression is not easy to beat and take quite an effort.
To come out of such complex situation, I recommend following step needed to safe your marriage along with your mental healthiness.
Every work we carry out in this world has it own set rules, rights and eventually action based result. Unless you understand your role and responsibilities, it is not easy to make any thing work. Let alone fight for your rights.
It is common for women and men to dream about a perfect marriage life. But world of imagination is not same as real one, and dream rarely culminate in real life. Some couples are so engrossed in their fantasy that they are unable to cope with real truth. It is important for newly weds to concede and accept realistic expectation regarding married life.
Understand you partner, their nature and their right. This approach will help you in understanding your duties toward your spouse. And in turn make your spouse change any misconception about your. In turn start accepting you and appreciating your efforts. Be the first to initiate wellness in your marriage, do not involve yourself in thought of 'why I need to start being nice, he could start it too'. As fruit of successful marriage is for you to enjoy, you are doing it for your own good.
Be alert and well prepared to face any challenges or difficult situation as they arise. It is normal to have problem or serious issues in every marriage. What matters is how tough and intelligent you are to deal with them. Have a mental attitude to sort out issues.
Communication is important in marriage, healthy marriage always depend on how issues can be solved through one to one talk between husband and wife. Talk about your expectation from the marriage. Be open to your spouse and discuss every issue you feel about. This will help you in eliminating problems and also understanding your partner's like and dislike too.
Patience is good attribute to have in oneself. It provides you supplement energy need in crisis situation, where need of the hour is wait and persevere. If you have patience, it will allow you to forgive and appreciate your spouse love and affection. Eventually paving way to building a bridge of trust and support in your marriage.
Expect things to take shape gradually and not by speed of bullet. So be patient and believe all issue in your marriage will be sorted out in due course of time. Similarly, if you want can take professional consular help to resolve problems in your married life.
