subject: How To Approach Women - Building Confidence To Make The Approach [print this page] One of the most common and most crucial "sticking" points that single men have, is making the approach. You have to admit, that if you cannot approach women, the odds of you suddenly experiencing a lot of success in dating probably is not going to happen. Men are the ones that are supposed to make the approach, and not being able to do so will leave you ticked off at yourself and dateless on the weekend.
Problem is, if you lack the confidence to approach women, it's not like you can just decide to not have a problem anymore, can you?
Well, in a sense, you really can. See, most of the limitations that we have when it comes to dating and meeting women, they are all in your mind. Somewhere along the way, you made a connection that approaching women was something to fear, something to make you feel awkward and nervous, and that became the way that you really saw it.
Acknowledging this, and deciding to work on becoming good at approaching women is something that is within your power, it's something that you can get started working on right away, and it's something that eventually will no longer be a problem for you.
Here are some tips that will help you approach women with confidence:
1. Reframe the way that you see things.
This can be hard to do at first, but in the end, it will be one of the best things that you can do. Picture in your mind approaching a woman, and she is more than happy to have you approach her. See, most men assume that rejection is the most likely outcome, and that is something that they do NOT want to feel. However, when you realize that rejection does not have to be the outcome, you will feel a lot different about approaching women.
2. Open her with a natural line.
What is a natural line? Well, it's not something cheesy, like what is your sign? Open a woman with something that is relative to what is going on around the two of you. If you are in a bar, pick out something that you can make a funny observation on, and use it to start the conversation. The more natural that it feels, the more comfortable YOU will be, and she will reciprocate the same feeling. She will feel comfortable with you.
3. Don't get hung up when you mess up.
Are you going to be perfect the first time out? Probably not. Sometimes, you are going to get a much different response from a woman than what you want. Sometimes, it is going to feel awkward or you will come across a cold woman that seems to shake your nerves a little. Point is, don't get hung up on it. There are more than enough attractive women out there, and the next one is always just waiting around the corner.
