subject: Top 5 Benefits of Confidence [print this page] The 1st step to mastering any dating technique or using any pickup line successful is having and portraying genuine personal confidence.
Why? Because without confidence, your attempts at approaching women will be viewed, by her, as being nothing more than a weak attempt to grab her attention.
So here is a little secret:"Its Not What You Say But How You Say It!"
Confidence is very evident to women via your body language, tone of voice, look in your face and even your smile. So if you are not talking to her with confidence then whatever you say will be WRONG in her ears. Now if you still need a little more evidence to the importance of confidence then check out the 5 benefits of confidence reviewed below:
Benefit #1: Charm
When someone is charming they give out an air of confidence that attracts people to them because of their raw yet pleasant confidence. This attraction is similar to the attraction that strong leaders command over their followers. Natural charm is a by-product of confidence and CANNOT be present with fear, insecurity or timidity. Its a simple fact and there are no two ways about this! So when you gain confidence in yourself and learn how to be charming then you will begin to realize that pick up lines work not because of the words you say but instead how you say it.
Benefit #2: Courage To Fail
"The Road To Great Success Is Riddled With Failure."
As you strive to achieve success with women you will fail and probably fail a lot. But the best thing about failure is that the experience gained and the lessons learnt are what mold you into the man you need to be. Now the problem with most men is that they fear failure a lot, so much so that we will usually fail to act just to avoid failure. And this is where True Confidence needs to come into play because confidence enables you not to linger on the failures that you experience but instead to learn lessons from failure and try again.
Benefit #3: Cocky Humor
You cannot perform cocky humor if you are not confident! Attempting cocky humor without confidence and you will end up being either arrogant or like a clown; neither of which you want. Cocky humor is an important element to the charm of men who are successful with women and it can never be performed properly without confidence.
Why is that? Simply because it requires you to be playful and yet be unapologetic about what you say; even though it may sometimes be "Bold & Outrageous." Sometimes you may say the wrong thing at the wrong time or just say something that is straight up "corny" but the fact that you have a genuine playful confidence, you will "magically" become pleasantly humorous and charming in the eyes of women.
Corky humor works and it come sometimes work wonders.
Benefit #4: Emotional Maturity
Men who are successful with women are self dependent. They are confident enough in themselves to not seek social approval from women and are therefore not needy. Now you really do not want to be one those people who live for social acceptance.
Why?
Because social acceptance will be your "everything" and your purpose in social interactions with women will be to gain their approval. And after talking to many women about the things men do that lead to most break ups is him becoming needy.
Women hate needy men. So you need to be the emotional rock in the relationship. That does not mean being emotionally detached but emotional mature enough not to be overly emotional and needy.
And this emotional maturity is a result on true confidence!
Benefit #5: Love
Learn to love yourself, so you can truly love others. Even the Bible says "Love Your Neighbor as You Love Yourself." Now Read that again and notice the last part of that sentence. So how can you love your neighbor if you do not know how to love yourself? *no pun intended* Confidence and Self Respect equate to Self Love and once you truly love yourself, you will be able to truly love and respect others.
Why?
Because you will treat others as you treat yourself and as you expect to be treated as well. So I hope you are beginning to see the importance of confidence in your quest for success with women. Confidence is the foundation to all great social and intimate interactions with women.
