subject: Marriage Reconciliation: Will It Work? [print this page] If marriage was an easy thing divorces wouldn't be so prevalent. And the people who try and do a marriage reconciliation wouldn't need to worry. Because there wouldn't be any problems that needed to be solved. However, we don't live in a fairy tale world, and there are problems.
Of course first things first, whether your marriage will work or not will depend a lot on what your problems were. Although some people do try marriage reconciliation after an affair, in most cases that will not work. It's really hard to trust a person who's already betrayed your trust, no matter how much you love them.
In some situations it may be a bit tougher to work past problems that caused the split. Maybe your spouse got in trouble with the law, or they did drugs, or cheated. Reasons like these are a bit harder to work past no matter how long you may have split up.
Not that the subject matter is funny, but in a way it is. A friend and her husband have an opposite thought process on swinging. If you are not up on that lingo, it's when a couple will include others outside of the marriage in their bedroom.
I'm not an expert but resenting a spouse is not a great step in marriage reconciliation. Make sure you are thinking of getting back together for all the right reasons. Some people even consider monetary problems as a reason to get back together. But this is hard to make work too, because money will cause a bunch of problems even in the best of marriages.
Needless to say, it is a bit funny for those outside of the story, but they split for a while due to this. But shortly after a marriage reconciliation was attempted. The only reason they decided to try again were they still loved each other, and he apologized.
Also keep in mind that marriage reconciliation shouldn't just be done for children in a marriage. Because a child will not grow up happy just because mommy and daddy are together if they are always at each other's throats. It may actually cause even more problems in the long run.
Try marriage reconciliation for the right reasons, not just to do it. If you have no more love for your spouse, tell them that. Holding stuff in is what could have caused the problems to start with. Why not give the spouse in your relationship the benefit of the doubt, and be honest with them. But if you honestly feel a marriage reconciliation will work by all means do it. Work out those problems for the better of everyone involved. That's one less divorce that will go into the statistic books and a happy husband and wife who may be together forever. Just because they tried a marriage reconciliation instead of just getting a divorce.
