subject: Relationship Mistakes Married Women Make By Totify.co.uk [print this page] Many of the same mistakes are made by both husband and wife but because of the differing emotional makeup of men and women some are more frequent to one than the other. Studies have revealed that women feel a more emotional connection to the mistake/problem at hand and tend to take it more seriously.
Men on the other hand would rather withdraw and let time heal the misunderstanding. He feels if the problem is ignored it will go away. Perhaps this goes back to the old belief that men are tough and its not a manly thing to delve into emotional issues.
Okay, we agree that mistakes are made on both sides of a marriage but now lets point a finger at those mistakes more commonly made by women. The first thing a marriage councilor will tell you is that communicating is foremost in maintaining a good relationship. So is timing.
If the husband comes home after a hard days work and you immediately hit him with a problem before hes had time to get comfortable in his castle, you may not get the response you desire. The same goes for television viewing. At least wait for the commercial to spring a problem on him, especially if his favorite team is behind with only a minute left to play.
Sorry ladies, but you are more likely to criticize than men. When confronting your husband ask yourself if you are criticizing and giving advice or if you are genuinely seeking a solution.
Criticizing can turn into nagging and then you have really got a problem in getting cooperation from your husband. If you have made it clear what you want and what needs to be done, constant nagging is not going to get it done any sooner. Demands are a no-no. Remain sweet, gentle and pleasantly persuasive.
And, it must be said - dont use sex as a weapon. This could really turn into a dispute and that puts an end to negotiations. A faithful husband will, as he should, come to you for intimacy. If hes refused because he failed to give in to your demands, he feels hurt and vulnerable. This is a power you have over him he does not like to be reminded of. Besides, many battles have been won in the bedroom.
Dont demand to know everything he does and where he was every minute he was out of your sight. This only shows your insecurity. Being interested in your husbands activities is different from being nosey and possessive.
Dont demand to be part of his every moment. Both of you need time apart to become your own person. Being aware of these mistakes can go a long way toward a pleasant relationship. You are both different. Accept this and love him anyway.
