subject: Jealousy Has Destroyed Many Good Marriages By Totify.co.uk [print this page] Jealousy is an emotion thats within youJealousy is an emotion thats within you. Its within us all but most of us control this emotion with trust and respect. Heaven help the person when jealousy gets the upper hand.
Usually, there is no cause for jealousy and the emotion surfaces because you have no trust in yourself. You have feelings of insecurity and inadequacy and dont believe anyone could possibly be satisfied with only you.
People who suffer from jealousy are also typically selfish. They are only concerned about themselves and what can be done for them. They view their spouses attention to someone or something else as a sign of not caring for them. A selfish and jealous person doubts they themselves could the trusted if the temptation arises and that doubt is demonstrated with distrust and jealousy.
The issue of trust can arise daily as we go about our everyday routine. We are away from each other and come in contact with others. This is viewed by a jealous person as an opportunity for a spouse to stray and they do everything possible to prevent that.
A few jealousy possessed persons resort to following their spouse and even threaten them in front of others. Its an embarrassing situation thats followed by a barrage of questions on what actually transpired during the encounter.
Has your spouse ever cheated on you and given you reason not to trust them? Truth be known, probably nothing is going on to merit your distrust. If your marriage is to survive, you must develop the virtue of trust. Show you love them enough to trust them. Trust, like jealousy, is an emotion thats within you. Which emotion you use is up to you.
Jealousy leads to possessiveness. The only way you possess anything is to give it freedom. This is true with animals as it is with humans. Its especially true in marriage. If someone is going to cheat in a marriage, they are more likely to do so in one thats not happy. Trust someone and they will respect you. Its not likely they will do anything to hurt someone they respect and love.
Seek the truth and believe the truth being told to you. If you discover later that you were right in your suspicions, then you are no worse off. A person who desecrates the vows of marriage by straying is never truly happy within themselves. You, by being trusting and faithful are experiencing a happy and joyful marriage. Find comfort in knowing your worst suspicions are rarely realized.
Jealousy is a strong emotion thats sometime impossible to control. If this is the case, seek help from family and friends. This is often not enough and professional help is required. Believe in yourself and defy that monster to show its ugly green eyes.
