subject: Finding The Right Person [print this page] That is rightThat is right. The key to love is finding that one special person who was made just for you. She is out there; you just have to find her. Drive around, hang out, and be on the look out, the moment will come. In Sweet November Keanu Reeves tries to cheat on his drivers exam, gets Charlize Theron in trouble and meets the love of his life instead. James Bond always meet his right one when they are trying to kill him and a lot of them.
The message of finding the right person is always the same. Finding the right person just happens! Its amazing, accidentally, and you are helpless in the process. Eventually you are going to meet the right one. When you least expect it, expect it. Right around the corner you will find that someone much better than people you have ever known. True love is mystical and magical. It is all about finding the right person. If it can happen to a lot of people, it can also happen to you. Just keep looking.
When you find that special person, something will snap and youll just know. Something about the way she talks, the way she walks. A brief look or gesture may be enough. You may not know her name or much about her, but you will know that you have fallen in love. In movies, you can fall in love with a stranger and it is the real thing. Love is based on chemistry, not knowledge or character. According to our pop cultures concept of love, you can sing, hello, I love you, wont you tell me your name? with a straight face. Youll be sure you are in love because you are going to feel it and electrical pulses will surge all over your body. Unfortunately, your IQ will drop about thirty points immediately. You will spend money that you dont have, youll spend time doing things that are ridiculous.
This is amazing. Love makes you crazy so to say that youll make decisions about which everyone who knows you will say, that is the dumbest thing youve ever done. And love is all that matters. In the movies love vetoes every other decision. Once you fall in love, every other promise you have made is null or void. You can be held to any previous commitment. The person with whom you fall in love with will become the object of your life, your future, your dreams, and your satisfaction. You have suddenly realized that he or she alone will make you whole and complete.
Life will have meaning like it never has before. In fact, youll find yourself living and thinking the lines from your favorite songs; I dont know what Id do without you and I cant go on without you, baby. You will begin to believe that you cant make it without him or her. You constantly daydream about this person, writing perfect romantic scripts about your future life together. You fully believe that this person will be able to meet your deepest longings and needs and come through for you100 percent of the time. Though we all intellectually know that it is impossible, we have been subtly taught to base our future happiness on the unconscious expectation that finding the right person will solve all our problems.
