subject: Vital Component Of Seduction- Touching [print this page] Touching / physical contact is an absolutely essential element of seduction. You can not successfully pick up a girl without establishing a basic level of mutual tactility- that is, before moving in with them, kissing and / or sleep with them, you must first have a regular amount of physical contact from both directions: if she puts her hand flirtly on your knee, put around the waist with your arm and move a little closer- whatever the form of the physical contact, it has to be present for you to reach your final goal of actual seduction.
And that right there is where the issue for plenty of men lies: how can a man get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl's not being tactile, how can a man create mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?
Often men "go for it" and consequently finish up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men choose they don't require to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact - doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the man is either not interested in the girl, or that he is basically timid to show it, neither of which are beautiful scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. All right, so what is the solution to this awkward issue?
basically, you need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don't appear uncalled for or rushed) but simultaneously clearly indicate that you are a confident man who is not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let's take a glance.
1. Plenty of men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that is basically not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and generate an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get speaking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while simultaneously verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman's arm is not intimate a place for the touch to feel unusual or out-of-place, but simultaneously it is a clear-cut sign that you are a personable, socially skillful kind of man. Don't be afraid to give it a try - you'll notice the benefits immediately.
2. Five times you have started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you like the look of, it is vital to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you have already created and also helps build it further, in to mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called 'Stealth Tactility' to do this. Basically, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if they desires to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn't know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a tiny closer, swiveling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles together with your other hand to where they needs to go.
3. Finally, always try to make use of a 'contact close' when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Plenty of men think that the hard work's been done five times something's been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring they remembers you and cannot wait to see you again.
