subject: Building Good Communication For A Strong Relationship [print this page] Communication is a very important act between two people. It is even more important than sex to build and maintain a strong relationship. To communicate, it takes two willing and open minds. If one mind is closed to communication, all that will happen is the other person will increase in confusion and frustration.
Some of us are concerned about the ABC's life and others worry about the EFG's life. That's OK. This increases the color to our lives in black and white together. Yes, it would be easier if we all are worried and thinking about things too. It would be less confusing only for a short period. Soon our complacency with each other would get "old". It would be like we could read each other heads, but what is the point if we thought and worried about the same thing.
A little controversy is what is needed in a relationship. It helps to know another side of our partner and ourselves. When we open our hearts to each other, we also offer a part of us. Until then, it is not necessary. One very important thing that a person who shares their most intimate fears and disappointments are never, ever, attempts to prevent that person in frustration. If someone has it open with you, embrace it and be heard. Never underestimate your concerns as immature or no sense because you would never have these problems. Remember the ABC's, we all think differently. Only then you both can communicate well, but it you don't, you will add another brick in the wall of communication breakdown.
There are many levels of relationships. Some of us are having situations that take much courage to see past hurts and disappointments. Just remember what brought your relationship together at first. Many times we have to return to the starting page and start from there. With an open mind and heart without judging, you can go through many errors and problems encountered in the past. If the partner does not understand, and you know, so you will be responsible to stop and work with them in a loving way and get them to open the door. It's important not to assume anything until a person is fully prepared.
Consequently, the power of writing is so productive. One person writes his thoughts down, uninterrupted, without fear of being derailed from his thoughts and the ability to get just to get out all from your chest, so to speak. People pay big money to be told all this, then listen! If you find that your wall of communication breakdown is starting to build, then this habit of writing letters to others is a great way to get around the wall. Always reread your letter before submission. You can also erase a thought or two that was purely emotional when writing.
We all have our past. We have to understand that yes, they do occur and that is what they are, the old numbers. To have your past continue to stand between you and your partner is a bad thing. If a person has a bad experience, it should be left in the past. This is where a good communication comes to the rescue once again. When we learned of some past issues of our partners, it is sometimes easier to understand and manage if we communicate with each other. If we remain in darkness and avoid responding with your partner's past, this is not a very good experience and we are weak when it comes to defense and our ability to communicate positively will be almost nonexistent.
