subject: Three Mistakes That Can Poison Your Marriage [print this page] Everyone of us have the very best of intentions for our relationships. However, we aren't perfect and readily neglect to do what's right.
Our best intentions often give way to the imperfections and flaws of human nature. Once the marriage has become routine, bad habits can gradually take over without our knowing it. This article will deal with three typical mistakes that often cause serious damage to a marriage.
1.) When you have arguments you take no prisoners.
Fighting is unavoidable in a marriage. Emotions heat up and these emotions start to take over. Even in the most vocal of arguments, you must never forget that you are in a love relationship.
Don't treat an argument as a battle that you fight to win. It's just an argument not warfare. It's just a difficulty that needs to be resolved.
Winning the argument means you've lost. It requires more than one person to make a marriage succeed. No matter how heated the argument gets, don't use superior decibel levels or force.
When you are in an argument, don't bring up your spouse's past indiscretions or faults.
2.) You don't try to be civil with her friends.
You're most likely aware that getting along with your wife's side of the family is a must. What you may not realize is that it's equally important to get along with her friends.
The reason for this is that when your marriage is troubled, she may seek advice from her friends. Do you want her getting guidance from friends who respect you or hate you?
3.) You don't like the idea of her having a life that doesn't involve you.
Marriage is a very important component of your life. But it is healthy to have other pursuits and activities as well. You shouldn't have any problems with your wife joining a club or going back to school.
As long as she behaves, it should make her a more well adjusted person.
The first task in eliminating your mistakes is having an awareness of them. Then you have to try to overcome them. It isn't easy to do, but with consistent effort and time, it can be accomplished.
