subject: Miserable Marriage Tips To Replace Misery With Happiness [print this page] Marriage is complicated but a miserable marriage is like being trapped in a prison cell with no hope of ever being set free. Sometimes you think about divorce but its a scary thought and you just dont know if its the right choice to make. However, you know you dont want to stay in the miserable marriage for the rest of your life. So here are some ways to start changing your misery to happiness.
There is no way that two individuals living under the same roof and sharing all aspects of life arent going to have marriage problems. Unfortunately, its just part of life but its important that couples manage their marriage obstacles and not let the problems determine their happiness.
I believe there are basically 2 things that can happen with marriage problems. They result in couples drawing closer together and tackling their problems or they let the issues drive a wedge or put a wall between them. Marriages either get better or worse but never stay the same, in my humble opinion.
There is a way to ensure that your miserable marriage doesnt wreck you and your mental or physical being. Its all about proper reaction and perspective. Remember, everyday is a gift and tomorrow is not promised so dont let your miserable marriage rule your days.
Here are some practical things you can do to help end your misery and improve your marriage.
Figure Out Whats Making You Miserable
So many times couples fight over unimportant things and days later have a hard time remembering what they were so angry and frustrated about.
The reason I believe this happens is because they often times have built up and misdirected anger. Instead of dealing with the real stuff thats creating walls and wedges between the couple they are grumpy and snap at each about non-important matters.
It might help if you spend a little time and write down the 3 to 5 things that are making you miserable. Is it lack of quality time, intimacy, spending habits of your spouse or how he or she talks to you? Once you figure these out you will need to confidently approach your spouse and get commitments to work on resolving the stuff thats driving you crazy and making your marriage miserable.
Establish A Dont List
Its very clear that if your spouse doesnt do certain things then you will be happier and less miserable. So taking a simple approach to fixing marriage problems is compromise, compromise and compromise.
When I had issues with my spouse the thing that helped fix some of the problems was getting a clear and simple understanding how certain behaviors were creating issues. For example, when I was working late and weekends to bring in extra money for the family I thought I was doing the right thing.
However, my spouse took it as me not wanting to be at home and had thoughts of me having an affair. We agreed that I would only work when we needed the extra income and I would clearly communicate when I would be working late so that my spouse wasnt wondering when I was coming home or where I was.
I realize this is a simple example but early on in marriage couples often times assume everything is fine until the stuff hits the fan.
Marriage is meant to be blissful and not miserable. Whats the sense of being married and miserable?
If you want to improve your marriage and end the misery then with a little focus, dedication and guidance Im certain you can get the marriage you want.
