subject: Ways To Cope Up With Adolescence [print this page] Kids grew behind their parents' identities and because of this, they become very much dependent to them. Once they go to the adolescence stage, they struggle through the rigors that are part of this stage.
For instance, a father working as a carpenter and whom people go to when they need to have some things built at home. In a matter of months, this father's name will be associated with carpentry. Before, the father's occupation becomes a family name of the entire family.
Sometimes, it is a peculiar trait that makes him stand out in the locality. This is why it's common for us to hear family names like Carpenter or Mason. It is acceptable if the son inherits the father's occupation for it would still be close to his own identity. But if the offspring chooses an occupation different from the father, he would have to build his own identity which then becomes a challenge.
When a person is still young the frontal lobes of his brain, which are associated with thought processes that involve deep thought and reflection, are not yet totally developed according to science. That's why a child does not think about his future.
This is also the part works when a person is thinking about the consequences of his actions. And it is for this reason that adolescents are known for being reckless with their decisions and the legal system imposes age limits for marriage and drinking alcohol. Hence, the reasons behind the need to guide an adolescent every step of the way through his growth are not only psychological but, most importantly, scientific.
Psychologists have long analyzed this difficulty among teenagers as they try to understand themselves and their own role. Individuation is the term used by science to describe this stage of a teenager's life when he seeks his own identity and will try anything that rouses his awareness. And this is a stage all people go through, whether or not they were aware of it at that point.
Because of this, parents who are preventing their adolescent children from exploring the world are not actually doing their own kids good. To allow the young ones to grow up naturally, they have to be allowed to explore the things that attract their interest as long these do not put them in any form of psychological or physical danger. Most importantly, their social skills must be allowed to develop naturally by allowing them to mingle with other people.
