subject: 6 Short Steps To Improving Your Relationship [print this page] Is there magic to what makes some relationships last longer than others? Maybe. Do some people just sit back and feel sad, while others seem to let life's problems just slip by.
It sure seems so. Or maybe its just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationship.
1. REFRESH Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!)
2. FUN Couple tend to have fun on dates, then get married and too serious. Lighten up and make a date together each week to do something you both enjoy such as going to a music concert, having a dinner date at a favourite restaurant, or if you are very busy meet up for coffee during the day.
Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favourite sitcom (record it if necessary) together
3. FORGET No need to dwell on the bad things said during an argument. Forget and be the first to apologise and make up. Go for it! We all say things we don't mean sometimes and then find it hard to take back!
4. SPACE Give each other some space. Either you trust someone or you dont. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time to spend with their friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space.
5. DISAGREE Agree that its okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to please both of you. You dont HAVE to agree on everything. And you wont. And thats okay.
6. MEMORIES Make some memories together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. The next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Take holidays together even if your work schedule is very busy. Experiencing different cultures and new places together will give you shared memories for years to come.
Take short steps to improve your relationship and let lifes problems magically pass by while you hold on to each other.
