subject: Aspects That You Should Take In Consideration Before Dating Your Officemate [print this page] Many times, the friendly relationship changes, in most cases, it always fail. There are many risks that make it very hard to maintain. But many do not know it before they start the relationship. So if you're a very busy man, but also, spend all your time in office, and dates with a colleague, you should look at all the potential benefits and disasters, which may occur specially in your career.
In our days increasingly people pick to start a relationship with a co-worker. The reason why this happens is that plenty of young professional men & females are spending all their time at the office, so they have less time to go out & meet new people. So, it is natural to seek friendship & companionship from colleagues.
There are some aspects that you ought to take in consideration:
-If you didn't ask her for a date already, & don't know how to do it, you may organize a group outing or event & invite her; but if they refuse, you need to think at something else; recommend something casual like dinner or film.
-You must think about what happens if your relationship doesn't work; will you be able to handle the situation to see your co-worker every day, to interact her every day? It may be hard to re-establish a professional demeanor with a person.
-Dating a co-worker can affect your work, in the event you are unable to differentiate between work & pleasure; so agree to not flirt at work, you need to set up relationship rules for the workplace.
-You have someone to confide in concerning your work problems; they could be a great help; but, there's more negatives aspects about this kinds of relationships.
-A relationship like this can generate issues in your promotion; the boss may even see that you are more preoccupied by your partner than your work.
-Never date with a subordinate because you may be accused for favoritism by the others employers; the others co-workers will exclude you now from definite conversations, won't speak about anymore with you about privacy.
-If you start a relationship with a co-worker it is better to keep it secret; it will need plenty of discretion, energy & work to keep your office romance between you two; so don't tell your colleagues about your romance because you're both work will be definitely affected.
-As a benefit, you get to have lunch together; so from a usual uninteresting office lunch, you can have part of one filled with flirting.
As you see there are some benefits but most of them are downsides. I recommend you to think well in the event you need to get in to a relationship that may affect your career & in the event you are prepared to do this. As I said, it may be hard to make it work. But, it remains at your choice what you are going to do.
