subject: Getting Over The Blame - Was It My Fault That He Cheated On Me? [print this page] Blaming other people for your own mistakes do not seem to sound healthy and definitely taking the blame when in fact it's not entirely your fault is twice as unhealthy. No matter what we know about this blaming stuff, we all get tangled with it and so, we just succumb to its knottiness.
Take note that the mind has the power to transform any individual whatever s/he thinks about himself. If you think you are bad, then you are. If you think you are good, then great. Only you have the power to change mountains with what you believe in. If you think it was your fault why your husband cheated on you, then it's high time for you to tighten the screws in your head.
You Just don't Know You have the Best
You said 'yes' to the man you think is the best for you, and surely he feels the same way, too with you. But best is different from perfect. Perfect does not exist. Even the best still has flaws because of being human. Cheating may not be the best thing that your spouse can do to solve his issues, but it could be one of the choices to excuse himself of being pressed down.
The fact still remains that you are married to a good man who is also capable of doing bad things like cheating, for instance.
Are You Going to Let His Cheating Define You?
No matter what he says to you, the fact still remains that he cheated on you. Realize that you are to blame. It was his decision to cheat. Whether or not you largely contributed to the issue, it is never an excuse to solve the problem by cheating.
Remember that cheaters always make excuses whenever they can. Even if they are caught in the act, they are so good at pointing fingers. You need to be aware of this type of cheating excuse. Beware lest you fall prey to allowing yourself to be defined his cheating.
What cheating flaunts in the relationship is the fact that there are things that need to addressed or discussed before the marriage has to go back to its normal state.
Common Reasons Men Cheat
Despite the fact that so many women believe he cheats because the other woman is prettier, younger, or smaller these issues are rarely the case. These are the reasons men often state for their straying ways:
Stress at home
Demanding wife (the other woman might be so patient)
No demands by the other woman
Appreciative mistress
There is an opportunity to cheat.
A chance (thinking that he could get away anytime)
Opportunity presented itself
Nagging
Flattery by the other woman
As you can see, none of these reasons have anything to do with their wives being bad women or even with their wives not being attractive enough. Even if your marriage has ended over cheating it's not too late to get your ex back and make your marriage better than ever before.
