subject: Am I A Bad Person - Is That Why He Cheated On Me? [print this page] Blaming yourself won't ever change the situation. Telling yourself that you caused the cheating is just an excuse of really getting into the problem itself. You can be bad or good. Your spouse can also be either, but the issue here has nothing to do with these things.
Whatever happened to the women who take the blame totally on themselves? Their husbands cheat and point the finger of infidelity to themselves saying, ''was it my fault that he cheated on me?"
Picked the Ripest One, but Still Got the Seed
Chances are that you are married to a very good man. He probably works hard to bring home the bacon. He believes in being good and doing right but, like all of us, he is still human and may, on occasion, do things he isn't very proud of. The odds are good that cheating is one of those things.
The fact still remains that you are married to a good man who is also capable of doing bad things like cheating, for instance.
You are Definitely Not to Blame
No matter what he says to you, the fact still remains that he cheated on you. Realize that you are to blame. It was his decision to cheat. Whether or not you largely contributed to the issue, it is never an excuse to solve the problem by cheating.
Remember that cheaters always make excuses whenever they can. Even if they are caught in the act, they are so good at pointing fingers. You need to be aware of this type of cheating excuse. Beware lest you fall prey to allowing yourself to be defined his cheating.
What cheating flaunts in the relationship is the fact that there are things that need to addressed or discussed before the marriage has to go back to its normal state.
Common Reasons Men Cheat
Despite the fact that so many women believe he cheats because the other woman is prettier, younger, or smaller these issues are rarely the case. These are the reasons men often state for their straying ways:
Stress at home
Demanding wife (the other woman might be so patient)
A nagging wife. The other woman is more appreciative.
Lack of respect at home
Chaos at home
Too many demands at home
A chance (thinking that he could get away anytime)
Nagging
Flattery by the other woman
As you can see, none of these reasons have anything to do with their wives being bad women or even with their wives not being attractive enough. Even if your marriage has ended over cheating it's not too late to get your ex back and make your marriage better than ever before.
