subject: How to Make Up After Breaking Up [print this page] Author: Sarah Scott Author: Sarah Scott
If you are like me, you probably want to get your partner back after getting dumped. You wind up thinking of everything you can say to your ex to make them take you back. I'm here to let you know that this is indeed something you can do. Will this be a cake walk? Probably not. But this is a possible outcome. So long as the two of you still have any type of emotions for each other after the breakup, you can always get back together. This feeling doesn't have to be love, it can be anything. Even if your ex is incredibly angry at you, you still have a shot. Indifference is the real opposite of love, not hatred. It can take some time, but you can transform any feeling into affection. You definitely will have some work to do. Right now your relationship is in danger of ending, but there is a chance you can salvage it. You'll have to be pretty cautious about how you move forward. It might require some will power on your part to turn things around and get your ex back. First you must fight back every temptation to call, text, email, or otherwise contact your partner. After your partner breaks up with you, it is pretty common to find yourself desperate to get back together with them. You'll only hurt your chances of making up with your partner if you think about things this way. If your ex dumped you to get some mental "space" harassing him with constant phone calls is not really letting him have this space. As a matter of fact, doing this kind of thing only pushes your partner away from you. For a couple of weeks to a month try to stop yourself from calling your ex. Then when you're ready you can send your ex a quick note apologizing for anything you may have done wrong that caused to the breakup. Since relationships involve two people, both people are at least partially responsible for the end of any relationship. If you can't pin-point any ways you might have helped cause the end of the relationship, then you simply have to think about it a bit more. Maybe you were too emotionally closed off or too clingy. When you feel ready, suggest that you and your ex catch up over coffee. Don't come across like you're overly eager to see your ex. Treat it like you are just meeting up with an old friend that you haven't heard from in a while. When you meet for coffee try to keep the discussion funny and casual. Your only goal here is to have your ex start to associate happy feelings to you and stir up all the warm memories the two of you have enjoyed together. Don't pressure your ex to get back together, just keep things casual. You can begin to see your ex more regularly and go on my traditional dates if you think meeting for coffee went well. Maybe something like a movie or dinner. After a breakup, you'll have to have patience to reunite with your ex. Try not to rush things and take your time like you would if you were just beginning to see someone for the first time. Still try to keep from talking about serious subjects unless your partner brings up the topic. As long as things keep going well, you can keep seeing your ex. Before too long, your ex will remember all the reasons that they fell in love with you to begin with. And the two of you will be back in a relationship again.About the Author:
Sarah Scott was dumped by her boyfriend while studying abroad in Italy. When she returned home to the United States, she studied the secrets on how to get your ex back. Now she enjoys helping others save their relationships.
