subject: Cheating Husband: A Second Chance? [print this page] Extramarital affairs are so devastating that even the idea of forgiveness becomes hard to pin down. It would be great if you could just have a push button to delete the memories of your husband cheating from your head, but the world does not work that way. While the affair lasts a jiffy, the fight can lasts a lifetime.
In the event, you maybe emotionally laden with pain, torture and anguish that to live, suffer and cry, and be alone could be the consecutions of the relationship. It is hard considering all the emotions to think astutely for the marriage. Hence, give yourself enough time, seriously, to think to excuse and accept a husband who cheated on you. You may have to think that the "forgive and forget" doesn't work all the time.
Expect that you will be bombarded with opinions from left and right. And there is no one who can really see deeply in to the situation. There is no crystal ball to catch a glimpse of your family's future so; you alone will always have to decide for the future of your family whether you have chosen it to be with him or without him.
Can you?
Even then it's not just that simple. You still have to decide if cheating is something you're capable of forgiving him for. This is something that will depend on your personal moral code. It's another one of those things that only you can answer in the end.
Another moral dilemma you will face during this trying time is whether or not you can accept your inability to forgive. Some religions and personal beliefs place forgiveness as a major virtue and one that should be extended even to your enemies. Your husband is certainly not your enemy even though he has done something that hurts you deeply.
Although unfaithfulness to a partner especially a spouse can be a betrayal of a moral obligation, but escaping from it is not an option. There are a lot of factors to consider why this is happening. Weigh both good and bad points and you might see the answer to the question. Forgiveness could be one of the solutions. He maybe and you might as well emotionally and heavily laden. He might just look for your arms for some comfort.
What will happen if you don't forgive your husband for cheating?
Forgiveness is taking risk to be hurt again. It may not mean giving someone another try, but it means you have forgiven yourself and has already let go the pains and hurts the cheating has brought in the relationship.
If you are considering forgiveness for your cheating husband, who better to offer it to than the man you love above all others on earth?
