subject: What's The Right Thing To Do? [print this page] Your wife has cheated on youYour wife has cheated on you. It may feel foolish to even attempt to trust her again but if you love her, is there really a choice in the matter?
Love is one of those pesky emotions that you really can't just turn on and off at will. That makes it a teensy tiny bit unpredictable. It also happens to be very closely tied to trust.
But the real question is whether or not it's foolish to trust your wife again after cheating? Unfortunately, it doesn't offer a simple solution.
It Takes Time
You will never know when to trust your partner if this issue will not be given necessary solutions.
In other words, if you haven't made progress in the relationship and worked together to get to the bottom of things then it is not the wisest time to blindly trust your wife again.
This is the one time when it could be very detrimental to risk your heart again. Proceed with caution. Guard your heart and make her earn your trust this time around.
It's not Easy at All
In certain areas, she might as well have done her obligation as a wife which could be a point to consider on giving her back a few of your trust.
If she can't prove she's worthy, try to weigh things. The highest form of thinking is reason. Before deciding things, think of the possible consequences. You must be rational and fair. Anyhow, she's still the person you love. Ask yourself, "Am I willing to face the consequences of the decisions that I'm going to make?"
Figure out where you can trust her now and where you'd rather have a little more time, distance, and diligence on her part before opening the floodgates all over again. You'll both be better off as a result.
The Solution
If she already proved herself to be worthy of your trust by being consistently honest and you've already figured out the problem by putting things back to their right places, that's the perfect time to trust her again.
This is after you've both worked long and hard to define your relationship, set goals for the future together, and really work to meet those goals. It is also when it is definitely not foolish to trust her again after she cheated on you.
