subject: Saving Your Marriage [print this page] Individuals who are prepared to do everything they can to rescue their marriage need to be really congratulated. With divorce being the easy way out, and for some, the only way out, in modern society, we must give credit where credit is due, and there is plenty of credit in saving a marriage.
Saving a marriage won't be easy. Nothing that is truly worth having is never easy to get. To save a marriage you must rebuild the trust with one another, and to be ready to truly forgive your partners transgressions, just as he must forgive yours.
One way to help you save your marriage is to write down around ten things you truly desire from your mate. This little exercise can shine a spotlight to many of the misunderstandings that couples who are trying to save a marriage can face.
All partners come with baggage, and your baggage is no better or worse than your partners. In a perfect world this wouldn't be so, but saving a marriage wouldn't be a problem in paradise. When you are attempting to save your marriage you shouldn't be scared to speak the truth from your heart. Many times we hide our feelings and others are not aware of them. No one is a mind reader, and many situations can be easily solved when everyone is in on what the problem is. Both spouses need to be clear in expressing their requirements, neither one should ever be expected to read the other's mind.
Saving a marriage can take patience, humility, forgiveness, and most of all communication. As soon as each mate is communicating their requirements the right way, everyone will be speaking the same language and messages won't be misconstrued.
Taking the time for rescuing a marriage may be the best gift you have given to one another. Instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Give me my marbles, I'm going home, I don't want to play with you anymore," we should say, "If we love each other we are committed to saving a marriage we made in good faith and in love. We owe it to everyone involved to try to be saving a marriage.
