subject: Top Three Tips On Starting A Conversation With A Girl [print this page] You've seen it happen before, or possibly you've even experienced it yourself. A guy works up all his courage to talk to the girl he's looked at all night, and drops his cleverly composed pickup line, using what he thought was a hilarious punchline. Immediately he finds that the line doesn't go over well, and not only is he rejected by the girl, but everyone around him is laughing at how terrible his line was.
So how can you avoid this problem in the future and save the embarrassment?
Step #1: Just be real.
The biggest issue with lame pickup lines is they are the essence of fakeness. A cleverly delivered punchline lets the girl know nothing about you or what type of person you are, and ends up insulting her with its insincerity. Plus, chances are that the girl has been approached with the same line countless times before. Imagine if you approached a lady with sincerity, and how much that could make you stand out from the crowd.
Step #2: Keep the goal in your mind.
What is the real goal of a pickup line? If you answered that is it to get a girl to like you directly, you are wrong. The most a pickup line can do for you is to comfortably start a conversation. The only method to get a girl to like you is to connect with her on a personal level. That's why your opening line shouldn't just be some joke, it should be a lead in to a talk. It's also crucial that the discussion that follows does not just involve you talking to the girl, but rather engaging her. That's what women mean when they talk about being swept off their feet, and it's what keeps them from getting bored.
Step #3: Stay away from yes or no questions.
Jokey pickup lines also suffer simply because are usually yes or no questions, and when the girl answers it, the conversation hits a lull. On the other hand, real, honest introductory questions that ask her opinion on something open the doors to a longer conversation, buying you additional time make your connection. When you can combine an open ended question with something that you can bet you'll have in common, such like where you are (the bookstore, bar, or caf you both happen to be in), you'll multiply you chances of having a longer conversation many times over.
Lastly, an important rule is to be yourself. This has been repeated enough times that it sounds like a clich at this point, but the fact remains that ultimately, women are interested in confidence and sincerity, and that will take you further than any pickup line ever could.
