subject: How To Take Your Relationship Further [print this page] Every relationship starts with a fire burning in the belly, which eventually smolders out. Ask yourself whether you still feel that spark with him that originally brought you two close. If the answer is no, don't think you are the only one. Every relationship starts on a great note but as soon as some disagreements surface the raging fire just wanes out.
Relationships, like Rome, aren't built in one day. You have to nurture them day after day, year after year, for them to blossom into beautiful flowers. There are many ways by which you can make your relationship grow and become more fruitful with each passing day.
Before you start considering 'how', perhaps you need to be clear about 'what'. As mentioned earlier, couples get together because they feel a certain pull or attraction towards one another. It is this small connection somewhere that, over a period of time, grows into a lasting meaningful relationship. This is, however, not a very smooth road.
You may face umpteen roadblocks and speed-breakers. Some will be serious issues while others can be easily dealt with such as:
Dwelling On Pain Of The Past - These can actually hinder your new relationship from moving forward. You have to learn to let go and start afresh. Every relationship is new and brings in new experiences so it is simply naive to hold on to previous ones.
Accepting Good and Bad - Every person is a package; if you love their good side, you have to accept their bad side too. Keep your mind open to his beliefs, interests, likes and dislikes even as you make him aware of yours. Always have healthy discussions to stay in touch with him and to keep him in touch with your inner self.
Look At The Positive Aspects - No person, no relationship is perfect so it is stupid to think that your relationship will be just a bed of roses. Let the mistakes be and don't dwell too much on them. They will frustrate you further and cause more stress.
Lay Things Out Honestly Before Getting Serious - It is a good thing to make yourself clear at the outset of a relationship. It avoids misconceptions and conflicts later on. You should also have a clear understanding of what you both expect from the relationship.
You have to be assertive while also making an effort not to come across as domineering or bossy. Often, agreeing to disagree keeps relationships afloat for long.
Pay Attention - Listen to him and make sure he listens to you. Communicating constantly and in the right manner is a vital ingredient of every successful relationship. Talk right and make sure you are rightly talked to. Learn how to make him share everything with you and gradually see your relationship truly sparkle.
