subject: Approaching A Woman - Why Is It So Hard Just To Walk On Over And How Can You Make It Easy? [print this page] Time and time again, men have to struggle with approaching a woman. It's funny how even the toughest guy that you know, can turn into a total basket case when it comes time to approach a woman. If you struggle with feelings of approach anxiety, you are not alone. It is so widespread and common place, that it begins to seem like it's just a universal experience that ALL men have to deal with at some point in time.
So, why does it have to be so hard to just walk on over and is there something that you can do to make it EASY for you?
One of the main reasons why it is so hard for a man to make the approach, is due to the conscious or sometimes subconscious fear of rejection. Hey, the male ego can only take so much bruising, and if a woman shoots you down cold, it can take a while to recover from this. Another common reason for the anxiety of approaching a woman is that there is a tendency to feel that a woman is so attractive that you are not worthy of her attention.
Whatever the case might be, it's something that you have to be able to get over, or at least handle if you want to get more successful with dating and picking up women. See, that lingering anxiety, most guys feel it even when they are quite good at picking up women. So, really, the key is to learn how to handle it and make it easier on yourself.
Here's how to make approaching a woman suddenly become a LOT easier for YOU:
1. Calm yourself down by calming down your mind. The mind can be an enemy when it comes to approaching women. The mind starts to race all over the place and think of all of these possible outcomes that you DON'T want to happen. Being able to calm down your mind and make it so that it is no longer an issue will help you to really overcome any approach anxiety.
2. Learn to breathe the right way. When you start to get a little bit anxious, you are naturally going to change up your breathing. And that change in your breathing pattern will just make things seem worse. Your heart will race, and then the very though of walking on over to her will end up being too much. Breathe in deeply and exhale slowly and you can start to calm that down.
3. Make your move ASAP. The longer that you wait, the more likely it is that you will never even get over to her. You need to grab the bull by the horns and not even think about walking over to a woman and starting a conversation with her. Seriously, when you start doing this, you will find that approaching women instantly becomes a LOT easier for you.
