subject: How Do I Get Him Back I Think My Ex Was Cheating [print this page] Do you wan to get him back more than anything in the world? But is you mind filled with suspicion and doubt as you wonder if he was cheating. Do you wonder if you should confront him and if you find out the worst then what do you do?
If your breakup was very emotional, as most are, and if you have been left wondering exactly what the heck happened you mind very well might be playing tricks on you. It is perfectly natural to wonder if he was cheating on you and if you let your mind wander too much you very well might be able to convince yourself that he was indeed cheating without a doubt.
Use caution when allowing your mind to drift in this direction. The next step that you might take could actually spell instant doom for any chance that you have of ever getting him back. As tempting as it might be to either confront him or start doing a little snooping around, this will only make you appear weak, needy and desperate. Instead, put your doubts behind you and focus on your future and getting him back. If you do find out that he was cheating then you can deal with that issue at a future date.
The mind can play terrible tricks on us and if your breakup came almost out of the blue it would be very easy to convince yourself that your ex was cheating. Maybe he does have a female friend that is just a friend. Many guys do and many guys use these female friends as a source of advice when it comes to matters such as relationships. So if your relationship was on the rocks it is quite possible that he was talking to another girl about what he should do. This doesnt constitute cheating and if you accuse him of cheating with her or that he shouldnt talk to her anymore once you get back together you will only seem needy, controlling and petty.
Instead rebuild your confidence in yourself and your ability to get him back. The simple truth is that you won his heart once before so there is no reason why you shouldnt be able to do it again. Of course, there has probably been a lot of damage done in the days leading up to the breakup and also since the breakup. But these difficulties can easily be overcome if you know to make him want you again. And you guessed it, accusing him of cheating isnt going to get him back.
Think about it this way. How would you feel if he asked you if you were cheating when you were together? First, it would make you feel like he was pretty insecure to think such a thing. Likewise, he will view you as insecure from then on out if you accuse him of cheating. Secondly, it would make you feel pretty good that he would think that you could attract someone else and carry on two relationships at the same time. Right now your ex doesnt need any help in the ego department so keep your doubts and suspicions to yourself.
Instead, pull yourself together. Get your emotions under control and think positive. Actually getting him back isnt going to be difficult at all if you understand male psychology and know what buttons to push. Think of it this way push a button that is labeled accuse him of cheating and you will see him run the other way in disgust. Push a button labeled talk to me about the relationship and see him change his phone number and email address. But push the right buttons and you can have him pursuing you with the vigor of a wild animal as he begs you for another chance and comes crawling back to you.
Just remember, keep all doubts from your mind and realize that it is normal but not probable that your ex cheated on you. To accuse him of cheating will only make you appear weak and needy and ruin any chance that you have to get him back.
