subject: My Cheating Wife Can't Breakdown My Confidence In The Bedroom [print this page] Being in the bedroom with your cheating wife can be an uncomfortable state for a man who has just been feeling betrayed. All the confidence has been lost since the time you found out she was cheating. And the culprit was the rejection of your manly skills as the lover of your wife.
In other words, it is one of the worst insults that can be delivered. Here's something important to remember if you are one of the many men wondering "how do I regain confidence in the bedroom after my wife cheated?" It is rarely your skills and experience (or any perceived lack of skill or experience) in the bedroom that will lead a woman to cheat.
There are rare exceptions but they are so very rare that it's probably likely not the reason in your specific situation. Here are a few things you can do that will help you regain your lost confidence.
Know What Really Happened
Things unknown to us humans make us interpret those events imaginatively -sometimes rational but sometimes mere superstition. When something occurs and we aren't sure of it, there is also the tendency to deepen the false interpretations.
The actual cause of an event however is not readily investigated well. In reference to your marriage, you can't just believe in false inferences. You really have to find out the reason why the cheating happened. If you do, this will somehow remove the disturbing feeling during lovemaking.
The best way to accomplish this, of course, is the direct approach. Ask her why. Try to do it at a time when emotions aren't raw and never ask while you are in bed with her but you need to get to the bottom of things so that your relationship can resume and progress.
Know Why She's Still There
Once you find out why he was tempting you also need to investigate the reasons she chose to stay with you rather than leaving with him. There has to be a reason.
The fact that she stayed already gives you a hint you are the better man. Losing confidence is naturally an immediate response but the truth may tell otherwise. You have to rise up and disprove that view. At the end of the day, she must have realized everything is better off with you. Not to mention the bedroom.
