subject: How To Create Attraction With Women - Should You Just Be Yourself? [print this page] One of the most standardized pieces of dating advice that all guys get at some point in their lives, is just to be yourself. Be yourself, they say, and the right girl will just come along. Well, as any guy that is over the age of 21 can tell ya, sometimes being yourself just is not enough. To create attraction with a woman, you have to go a bit deeper than just trying to be yourself.
Now, I am not saying that you have to be a faker to attract women. You don't. But, if you just keep on doing the same things over and over and expect that somehow things are going to change, you are probably going to end up waiting FOREVER.
SO, SHOULD YOU BE YOURSELF TO ATTRACT WOMEN...
One of the reasons why this gets told over and over, is that no one is going to say, hey, you need to change, man. They want to make you feel good, so they just spoon feed you generic advice and hope that everything just works itself out in some way.
But, women are attracted to men that have DYNAMIC PERSONALITIES, so if you are the typical shy guy that does not really stand out in a crowd (and most men are), then being yourself is not going to do a thing to make you more attractive to women.
YOU HAVE TO GET NOTICED BY WOMEN TO DATE THEM...
If a woman does not even notice you, then really, what are the odds that she is going to end up being your girlfriend. Pretty much nil at that point. You have to stand out and you have to get her attention. Being able to PROJECT your personality and show your STYLE is the way to do this.
You don't have to gel up or mousse up your hair if that is not your thing. You don't have to do your best impersonation of a rock star to get looks from women. But, you DO have to be able to hold down a conversation that is fun and entertaining. You do have to be able to make her laugh and make her smile.
TO CREATE ATTRACTION WITH WOMEN, YOU NEED TO HAVE A HOOK...
For some guys this will be easier than it is for others, but you have to really find your hook, your thing that makes you different from every other guy that is out there. Most women, especially attractive women, they get used to meeting guys all of the time. And sooner or later, they get used to the same generic guys that come on to them.
When you have a hook and you stand out to a woman, then you will easily make her think of you as being the kind of guy that she wants to date.
