subject: Ways To Get A Divorce [print this page] Getting a divorce is a traumatic experience for most people, sometimes made worse because of high legal bills. It is possible to use a method that is less expensive, but still results in a legal divorce.
If you are lucky enough to still be on speaking terms then it is possible for you to take all the steps to get a divorce without involving anyone else. Doing so can save you both a lot of money. First agree how the assets will be split and what the custody arrangements for any children that you have. Once you have a detailed agreement drawn up between you it is advisable for each of you to take it to a solicitor. A good solicitor will examine the agreement to make sure it complies with the law and that you are not giving away your rights. Provided once you have spoken to a solicitor each you both agree, you can proceed with the divorce with no further help from a solicitor.
Another good option is to use a mediator to help you to agree the terms of your divorce and resolve any conflicts. Qualified mediators are trained to resolve disputes and arguments, in particular those relating to the children. However, they are usually not trained to give legal advice. For this reason see a solicitor prior to your meeting with a mediator. That way you can be sure that you understand your rights and all the legal options that are open to you. This should ensure that you do not agree to anything during mediation that will have unnecessary negative implications for your future.
Collaborative law is an even better alternative to the traditional route. Each party employs their own lawyer, but all four of you meet face to face to work through the options and come to an agreement which is fair to all parties. This method is designed to avoid having to go to court.
The most common method is still an option, which is to employ a solicitor each, and let them come to an agreement using letters and telephone conversations. Provided both solicitors are realistic and good communicators this method can still work. However, if you get a bad solicitor involved or someone who is not tactful then the whole divorce can become considerably more acrimonious than it has to be.
