subject: 4 Calls To Action That Will Help You Get Your Ex Back Even If It Seems Hopeless [print this page] Too many misunderstandings have happened and now you are no longer a couple. Each of you went your separate ways but still nagging within you is the pain of wanting to get your ex back. You've tried everything, but to no avail.
The situation may look hopeless, the future, bleak. You may feel like a failure. Now is not the time to mourn, but rather to act. Here are four things that you should do with this time:
1. Self Examination: Take some to do some soul-searching. Examine your role in your relationship. It is likely that you are responsible for many of the misunderstandings. List your own shortcomings. If you are to get your ex back, you need an honest assessment of what kind of partner you are!
2. Make the Changes: Follow up on step one. Use your list as a guideline and make changes in yourself. If you nag, start arguments, control everything, or always have to have the final word, you must stop it! Maybe you don't listen well to your ex's concerns. Practice being a listener with those you are safe with. Once you begin to take action, hopelessness fades.
3. Communicate: When you feel you have made sufficient change, find a way to communicate this to your ex. You will need to let them know that you are taking the blame where you deserve it. And you've practiced listening, so now you need to listen to their concerns and complaints. Apologize where it is appropriate and show them why things are different than before. When you get your ex back, communication is key to making it last.
4. Rules of Good Human Relations: As the two of you begin to rebuild your relationship remember the most important things you ever learned, you knew by the time you were in kindergarten. These are: Say "Please," "Thank you," and "Sorry."
