subject: Making Up After Cheating Has Ripped Your Relationship Apart [print this page] Kiss and make up after cheating seems a hard thing to do. But if you are determined to do all the best in you to start a new, whether you are the one cheated or the one being cheated to, it doesn't matter. Repairing the damage of what cheating has done is not that easy; determination to patch things up is the only key to succeed.
What can you do to help with making up after cheating so you can get back to work on the future of your relationship?
Leave the past behind and focus on the future.
Your past is now a part of history. The first thing that both of you need to do is to start each day as a brand new day. When doing things, do things as a couple. Set goals as a couple and work as a couple in achieving these goals. Don't bring up the past that will trigger arguments.
Focus on what are your plans in the future and leave the past behind, including the cheating and all the wrong doings. Build your new relationship all brand new - completely new.
Involve yourself in building the new relationship
If before you expect too much from the relationship, this time is different. You need to build a "better" relationship with your partner, not a "perfect" relationship. You need to do it step by step.
The thing to remember is that the relationship isn't going to mysteriously get better this time around. You'll both have to be involved in the rebuilding process in order to get the results you want.
Be on the same page
One of the issues that most couples encounter is that each of them has their own perspective about a "happy" marriage. Couples do their own way. To makes things out, both need to talk about what they would like their marriage to be, and what your marriage is like right now.
After doing this, both of you need to take a look on which direction both are going and you need to decide on just one path that your relationship will follow.
Write Your Own Happy Ending
If you believed that fairy tales don't come true, then you're wrong. All you need to do is to add a little creativity in your relationship, stop thinking about how you want your relationship to be "perfect", instead enjoy all the love and the imperfections of your relationship.
When you let go of what you think your relationship should be and learn to appreciate what it is together you will both be much happier together. You just have to be willing to work together to create the happy ending you've both been looking for.
