subject: How To Make Centering Automatic [print this page] The repeated practice of centering, of balancing, of flowing with an opponent causes a gradual change in the person doing the centering, balancing and flowing with.
~Terry Dobson (Aikido in Everyday Life)
"Does centering ever become automatic?" asked a workshop participant.
The answer is yes, if we practice.
Sharon Eakes, a trainer and executive coach, says in one of her articles that we can create new neural pathways through repetition. The brain never stops learning, and "like a river cutting through a valley," when we repeat a new thought pattern, physical activity, or emotional attitude, we gradually deepen the groove. We create a new habit. According to the research, just thinking about being centered in a difficult situation strengthens the new habit.
Here are a few examples about how to make centering more automatic:
* Center now. You can train yourself to center by standing in a relaxed posture and directing the weight of your body toward your physical center--an internal point about an inch and a half below your navel. Breathe into this center point of your body. Breathe out from this same point. You will begin to feel more composed, confident, and in charge of yourself, both physically and emotionally.
* Start your day centered. Physical exercise, deep breathing, meditation, prayer, and quiet reflection are tried and true centering practices. You may have your own. By starting your day with a centering activity, you will return to the centered state more easily as the day's events unfold.
* Create triggers. Triggers are objects, behaviors, people, or events that remind you to re-center periodically. Place posters or quotations on the wall that reinforce your vision. Keep a book of affirmations close at hand, or a picture of a loved one to help you remember what is really important.
* Choose one practice. Incorporate one practice into your day, and make a promise to do it for 30 days. Keep track and be specific. For example: each time the phone rings, I will take a breath and exhale before I answer it.
My 30-day practice:
In my workshops, I use a centering bell to help participants practice this new habit, because the sound of the bell is centering, plus it reminds us to do it.
