subject: How To Handle Rejection While Dating [print this page] The first thing to remember when dating is you will get rejected at some point. Rejection is definitely not fun, but remember what rejection is. Rejection is only one persons opinion of you. You don't like everyone, and they will not always like you. If you get rejected they are the ones missing out on getting to know you. How can you ever succeed if you never try? No guts, no glory.
The key to rejection is to look at rejection in a different way. Rejection is the beginning of an opportunity. The successful people in the world have learned not to take no for an answer. Everyone in life that has ever done something worth doing has had to face rejection. The big question is, are you going to let it get you down? For example, think about all the movie stars in the world. Did you know that when Fred Astaire went to Hollywood for the first time he was totally rejected? One talent scout wrote said in reference to him, " Big ears, too skinny, big nose, can dance a little." I am sure that he is not the only person in Hollywood to have ever faced that kind of rejection.
Rejection means that that person may say no to you, but that doesn't mean that everyone will. You need to figure out that no is no, when someone is showing no interest at all. No may mean no today, but that doesn't always mean that it will be that way. If you have constantly asked someone out on a date and got rejected than it is okay to say, "Okay, I understand that you are not interested, but here is my number is you ever change your mind." Don't let one persons opinion of your destroy your confidence or your belief in yourself.
The preceding also works vice versa. If you really don't want to go out with someone don't tell them "maybe" or "next week." This is leading someone on. Instead just say, "thank you, but it's just not possible at this time." You need to remember that the world is a small place and is very connected. Someday you may change your mind, or that person that you turn down may marry your best friend or be your boss someday. Do you really want to burn those bridges even before you had a chance to cross them? There is no reason to ever hurt someone's feelings just because you are not interested, be gentle.
If you are afraid of rejection and never attempt any thing because you are afraid of being rejected than you will miss out on a lot of life. Just remember that rejection is a part of growing as a person and every person goes through it and they always will. You are in total control of how you take the rejection and how you react to it. See if you can take the angst away, take the chip off of your shoulder, and go for it.
