subject: Marriage - Save It? Or Get A Divorce? [print this page] Owen to see thisOwen to see this. He might start trying to do those things and my mind already is made up. I want out."
Further conversation showed that she felt that once her marriage to Owen was over, she'd marry the guy she'd already found, and if that didn't work out, she'd go find another. Whereas she had been committed to her first marriage for 18 years, now she wasn't dedicated to much of anything except finding someone with whom she could sleep.
Had Arianna known Audrey, Arianna might have been able to paint a picture of the future for her. Arianna and I met at a small church we were attending when our children were small, and since our kids were about the same age, we arranged play dates for them, taking turn at each other's homes watching them.
No, I didn't know and in no way would have guessed. "That must have been rough," I said. "Wasn't there any way you could have kept even one of your previous marriages together?"
"Nope," she said. "My first husband was a bum. The second cheated on me. Let's see - husband number three didn't make enough money. The fourth one was controlling and arrogant and the fifth had kids I couldn't stand. The guys I had the affairs with? They didn't want divorces from their wives. They just wanted to fool around."
"And Anthony?" I asked regarding her present husband, as I tried to pick my chin up off the floor. "How's he working out?"
"He's okay," she said. "Actually, I don't have much choice now." She looked in the mirror. "I'm not a threat to anyone at this point in time."
Like Arianna and Audrey, some people see no reason why they shouldn't have affairs. Nor do they have any regret about divorcing if their expectations aren't met after they marry. Why should they even try to honor their wedding vows? Marriage becomes sort of a game to them. If they start losing, they head for city hall. Sadly, later in life when the women lose much of their allure and outward beauty, they almost always end up lonely and miserable.
These merry-go-round marriage riders are looking...hoping that the next lover will be better than the present one.
The list of marriage offenders is long and, frankly, disgusting. There's a explanation as to why more second marriages end in divorce than first ones. Every time you move on to someone else, you take a lot of dirty laundry with you. Couple that with the baggage he/she brings into the 2nd, 3rd, 4th (or more) marriage, and you've got triple and quadruple the trouble than you want.
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