subject: HOW TO BUILD A SUCCESSFULL RELATIONSHIP [print this page] A successful relationship is not that easy but only takes the grace of God, couples must work very hard to keep the spark or relationship tight and alive as many online dating site will proclaim. So the question is this! how do they keep relationship spark alive? By honest and open communication is the simple secrete. It is amazing and obvious how many misunderstandings crop up between singles or men and women. But then I guess if you browse the bookshelves of any bookstore you will see titles on this subject e.g. "Men are From Mars," "Why Women Don't Read Maps" etc.
In every relationship it is bound that the two must for once argue but it is how they do it and to what extent that is important. You need to trust one another and that means feeling able to disagree without it turning into a personal attack. Be open about how you are feeling and remove every atom of suspicious and jealousy. Don't get personal or blame the other person as that will not help you to resolve anything. A good argument can be fantastic for your relationship as it can strengthen the bond between you. Then there is always the making up. Wow!
Make time for each other. Instead of being at the bottom of each others to do list, put it at the top. Your relationship affects the entire family. It must be nurtured in order for it to survive and prosper. Shared memories are what keep a couple together. Try playing games together. Shared interests such as golf, bridge, special outings are great for keeping the sparkle alive.
One game you could play is to taking turns for each person to make a request. They could ask to go for a walk, have a cup of tea/coffee in bed, take in a movie etc. The person being asked has the right to say no but the next day it will be their turn to be the asked, so they may want to remember that. These types of games help to build up the intimacy in a relationship. It also helps build a habit of asking for what you want rather than expecting your partner to guess.
Most important part having a successful relationship is a very caring and intimate relationship, because caring makes the love and passion grow stronger but unfortunately most believe it is all about sex. Having a great and intimate sex life is important, but it is perhaps even more important just to reach out and touch your partner affectionately every day. You can also just sit down and actually listen to what they have to say. This alone can move mountains in your relationship.
For successful couple, you first have to love yourself because without love nothing can hold. Often we complain that we do not feel loved by our partners. But when we are asked what they need to do differently we can't answer. If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else properly. You need to work on your self esteem issues first before addressing anything you feel is wrong in your relationship.
You do not rely on your relationship alone to make you happy and give you a fulfilling life. Also living a fulfilled live, you will bring more joy and happiness to your partnership. Two people who have found happiness together and separately make the most successful bonds.
To round it up, you don't get anything worth having in this life without a little work and that applies to successful relationships. Couples who work hard get to play hard! Couple should read and attend inspirational talk about relationship or marriages.
