subject: Is Your Relationship Healthy? [print this page] Odds are you didn't wake up yesterday and suddenly discover that you were in a bad relationship. The reasons that you think you are now in a bad relationship have been there all along, you just didn't pay attention to the signs or you just chose to ignore them.
For example, you and your lover may have the best intimate encounters that people only read about in books, but how does he or she treat you outside of the bedroom? Does he or she still continue to flirt with a person that makes you very uncomfortable after you informed them of your insecurity? How does your mate react when it comes to making important life decisions? The following are a few signs that you may be in a bad relationship:
- Do you feel insecure and weak around your mate? If you are having these feelings when you are around each other there is probably something wrong with your relationship and it needs to be fixed. Being in a relationship should be fun and worth being in, not a mental beating.
- You self-esteem is suffering as a result of what is happening between you and your partner. The cost of your self worth is way too expensive of a price to pay when you are in a relationship.
- Are you lying to each other? If you are lying to each other you need to ask yourself why and figure out how to fix it. Hiding things in a relationship is a no win situation.
- You find yourself feeling bad in your relationship that actually feeling good. If you are in that boat, than why are you in this relationship?
- How often are you complaining to other people about your relationship? This is never a good sign.
- Are you able to voice your problems or concerns with your mate? Are you able to discuss possible solutions to those problems? Everyone in a good relationship should be able to do this.
- Do you find that you have less enthusiasm about your life because of the stresses in your relationship?
- Is there a lack of trust between you and your mate? Trust is one of the most important bases of a strong relationship. If you don't have trust, you don't have much of anything.
- Small and tedious things about your mate bother you and drive you crazy!
- Are you no longer a priority to each other? Any successful relationship takes work and effort. Are both of you putting in the work that your relationship requires?
If you find that the majority of these scenarios describe you, you may be in a bad relationship. If you are in a bad relationship it is up to you what you do about it. You can confront and fix what is wrong with your relationship or walk away. The choice is up to you. Choose wisely.
