subject: Some Things To Keep In Mind If You Want To Get Back Together With Your Ex Girlfriend [print this page] Learning how to get back together with your ex girlfriend can be quite tricky. Of course, there are the common do's and don'ts and if you want to succeed in trying to get back with your ex girlfriend, you have to keep these in mind to give yourself a greater chance of rekindling that lost love.
1. No blaming. Whether the reason for the breakup is something that you did not do or something that you see is her fault, you don't have to go to the blaming game where you both are pointing fingers at each other. If you have decided that you still love her and you do want to get back together with your ex girlfriend, then you have to acknowledge that somehow, you have your own shortcomings in making the relationship work. Instead of blaming her, do apologize for your own mistakes.
2. Know what you really want. The pain of breaking up and the fear of what lies ahead may tell you to hold on and get back together with the person to lessen the pain and the fear but it is also important to ask yourself what you really want. Get over with the emotions first and then do a soul searching if you really want the person back in your life. Seek advice from friends or family to give you an objective perspective of the situation. Sometimes relationships may go through the cycle of breaking up and making up and that will hurt you even more.
3. Don't fight the breakup. It may sound ironic but if you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend, you have to give your girlfriend the space she needs. Focus on attracting her back and not pushing her to accept you back. Begging, seeking her attention at all times and other desperate moves are a no-no. If you give your ex girlfriend the space she wants, it would give her time to think about you. Even if she's dating a new guy, you would come across her mind especially if she hasn't seen you after the breakup. As the old saying goes, 'absence makes the heart go fonder' and that is a good hint of making her miss you and making her come back to you.
4. Spend your time focusing on yourself. Get yourself busy and occupied. Find ways to build more self-confidence. Even a simple makeover will do the trick. Getting a new haircut, going to the gym, enjoying a new sport, traveling with friends - these are just some of the things you can do, and of course, strive to be a success in your career. If you can handle and manage your life well after the breakup, the more you become impressive to your ex. Of course, no ex girlfriend would want to come back to a guy who has no direction in life.
5. Reestablish connection casually. If you have given enough space and time for your ex-girlfriend and for yourself, you can then reestablish connection with your ex. You don't have to boast what you have achieved after the breakup. You can simply call to greet her if there is any occasion coming up, or call her to congratulate about something and then you may invite her to dinner for old time's sake. This way, you will not just appear from somewhere.
Remember that to get back together with your ex girlfriend, you have to take it slow. Along with reestablishing connection, you have to attract her back with small steps and by starting from square one. This way, you will increase your chances of getting back together and not forcing her to accept you back again.
