subject: Levels Of Communication [print this page] There actually are many levels of communication. For the sake of simplicity I'll put them all the levels of communication into two levels: "Superficial Levels of Communication" and "Deep Levels of Communication". Most guys use superficial levels of communication and that is a big mistake! This is are some examples of superficial conversation topics: What's you name, where are you from, what do you do for a living, etc etc etc. Imagine being a hot girl and having have had that conversation thousands of times! That's awfully boring isn't it? So how would you protect yourself from all those boring guys? You'd be a bitch to them! So next time a girl shuts you down and you think she's a bitch, think about what you've done to deserve that.
Now how 'bout those deep levels of communication? In a deep conversation you can learn a lot about the other person and if you add an element of playfulness, it's very attractive. So what do deep levels of communication look like? Here's an example:
Guy: So, what kind of superpowers do you have?
Girl: Superpowers? Haha! Well let's see.. I can talk on the phone for hours!
Guy: How are you going to fight crime with a lame power like that? Bore them to death?
Girl: Haha! I keep my real powers a secret, so crooks like you don't know what to expect.
Guy: Wait a minute.. Are you calling ME a CROOK? Wanna take this outside?
Doesn't that sound a lot more fun than the superficial levels of communication topics? Here, the girl learned that the guy is funny, playful, a little dorky (not a bad thing) and confident. The guy learned that the girl is really girly, not very creative and also very playful. You can also comment about the things you've learned about the girl later. When you feel the conversation slowing down you can say something like: "You're a real girly girl aren't you?". And always remember to be playful (not childish). Girls LOVE to be played with (not being played, that's a whole other thing)!
Roleplaying is also a very playful example of deep communication. Say stuff like: "BAD GIRL, GO TO MY ROOM!" and really say it like you're her dad and she just came home with a bad rapport card.
But the MOST important thing to remember is to always HAVE FUN and always BE YOURSELF! If you are having fun, so will she and if she is having fun, she'll be wildly attracted to you! If you are a complete dork don't be afraid to be a complete dork! As long as you are not afraid of showing your true personality, everything is fine.
