All parents wish nothing but the best for their children. They want their child to be happy and want to see them to succeed in life. Your bond with your child during his growing years is very important. But there are still a few mistakes which many parents tend to make, which can have quite negative effects on their mind and hamper their development. So what are these mistakes, which all parents have to work upon? Let us have a look at them 1)Comparing 
Most of the times, parents compare their child with their neighbors child who comes first in the class and is very studious, athletic, artistic and so on. What every parent has to understand is that every child is unique and has his own individuality. Parents who fail to accept this fact, end up constantly comparing their child with others.It is better to stop comparing your child with others and in return focus on the things in which he or she excels. If you dont support your child with his weakness, he will lose his confidence and resort to attention seeking tactics to please you and others. You as a parent should not point the flaws by comparing, instead should encourage him to work on them. This will not only help him to perform better but will also boost his confidence. This problem doesnt end here; parents tend to make comparisons between siblings too. The child who is weak in academics is always compared with his sibling who is excelling academically. While one sibling is often praised the other is taunted and criticized in comparison. Behavior like this from the parents side can have a bad impact on the childs health. He is bound to feel that his parents love him less because he didnt score well or didnt come first in his class, it can also create a bridge between you and your child. Parents should avoid comparing and should not allow their childs weakness to be the parameter of judging him. 2) Performance Pressure 
With competition increasing day by day, parents expectations from their children are also increasing. Performance pressure is the most common problem which every child faces today. Children are being continuously pressurized to be the best in almost everything today by their parents. All parents wish that their child should perform better than others, but continuously putting undue pressure on your child can suppress his confidence level and will disable him from performing to his potential. Parents should not get angry or taunt children if they score less but motivate them to do better next time. Antics such as taunting, not talking, ignoring etc. for bad scores can have negative effect on their innocent minds. Many parents also promise rewards for better performance, please avoid this as much as you can. Make them understand the importance of getting good marks and how it will benefit them in the future. Rewards should only be in form of appreciation and motivation. 3) Choosing Career I am going to make my son a doctor; I am going to make my daughter an engineer, are sentences spouted by many parents now-a-days. Parents often discuss what they want their child to be in their social circles. 
Many a times, parents impose their choice of career on their child. This is not going to help you or your child, if his or her interest lies in some different field. Ask your child want he likes and wants to be in life. As a parent it is very important for you to analyze your childs aptitude and select a profession or career for him in which he shall excel and succeed. Let your child decide his preference regarding his career rather than you enforcing him with your choices. Many children because of their parents choice are forced into professions, but fail to succeed because of lack of interest. Give your child freedom to decide about what he wants to do. This will not only help them to work hard on what they like but will also shine in their career if it is something of their choice. So be supportive to whatever decision your child makes for himself. 4) Punishing 
Many parents punish their children for getting poor grades. Parents sometime resort to violent form for punishment like beating their children, keeping them home (grounded).This can have a bad impact on the childs health, as it can make your child develop a fear of failure. They will withdraw themselves from others, their confidence levels will drop and even if the child wants to work hard on his mistakes, he will not be able to do it. Punishing is not the solution to the problem if your child gets poor marks, as a parent it is your responsibility to find out the reasons for his poor performance. Sit with them and find out if they have any difficulty, so that you can solve them as this will surely help them in working hard towards improvisation.To read more about 5 Mistakes which Parents MakeAbout the Author:| welcome to loan (http://www.yloan.com/) | Powered by Discuz! 5.5.0 |