subject: Dating Women Who Are Too Nice [print this page] Are you a nice girl? Do people often tell you that you are too nice for your own good? Perhaps they even point to this as a relationship flaw. How is it that being too nice is a bad thing? Because, often times when men are dating women, they tend to take advantage of the relationship. Letting men test you is the kind of "nice" behavior you need to do away with. Let's analyze what exactly the nice girl does wrong.
The nice girl is so nice she compromises her standards and sleeps with a guy immediately, letting him know she is into him. Why is this a mistake? Because if a man sleeps with you before he falls in love with you, he has nothing else to gain from the relationship. He can move on and feel good about himself while you wallow in self-pity, wondering what you did wrong.
It's not always about sex. Sometimes the nice girl is just too needy for her own good. When men are dating women, they want someone with self-respectperhaps someone who is a "challenge." If you are desperate for attention, you start mothering your man. You start manipulating reactions out of him. You may think you're being nice, but in reality you are saying "please, please, please be mine!" It gets obnoxious quick.
The nice girl is overly submissive. Instead of enjoying the dynamic of a new relationship, and instead of flirting in a spirit of fun, she is more concerned with being perfect. She hardly says anything, and mostly agrees with whatever the man says. She is slowly but surely getting boring. How much longer before the man loses interest in this parasite? Sorry girls, but that's what a desperate woman is, by strict definition.
The most important lesson to learn in dating women. You cannot be needy. You cannot need your man to survive. A real woman is financially responsible on her own. She is not submissive. In fact, she is not afraid to argue with the man of her dreams. She is self-confident. Her dignity is more important than the relationship. No, a woman doesn't have to be a witch to protect herself. She can be friendly and approachable. However, she always stands up for herself and protects her heart.
This may seem confusing to you now, especially if you are new to dating. Women who are experienced in the dating world can reassure you of these things. If you apply these principles it will keep you out of bad relationships and help you find a guy who truly deserves you.
