subject: Communication the key to great sex for women [print this page] Author: Mark J Mcloughlin Author: Mark J Mcloughlin Communication with your partner is the key to enjoying better sex. This shouldn't be surprising, yet it is probably the most difficult part about being intimate with a partner. Do you have trouble-reaching climax during sex, no matter how excited and ready you are? Then you may be one of the many women suffering from anorgasmia, and not even know it. Many women remain quietly dissatisfied, going so far as faking sexual satisfaction. You cannot expect your partner to know what feels good without as much as a cue, especially if you have never expressed any sort of dissatisfaction before. Now it's time for the attention to be on you. Women have been sexually dissatisfied for years, but until the latter part of the 20th century sex was widely perceived as simply a woman's duty. According to research, 10% to 15% of women have never had an orgasm either by themselves or with partners, and somewhere between 30 to 50% of women have frequent difficulty reaching orgasm. That's 40% to 65% of women who are dissatisfied with their sex lives. Try writing down what it is that you want, whether it is in a letter to your partner or a list. You don't have to show it to them if you don't want to, but writing it out and seeing it on paper may clear up what you're thinking. While you may still be shy about having a full-on discussion with your partner quite yet, you can give them some help by making indication during sex that you like something that they are doing, be it arching your back or a groan. Another exercise is to guide their hand with yours over it to show them something that you like. If you're stressed, then your mind is elsewhere instead of with your partner. Take the time to relax, eat right, exercise, and get enough sleep. It sounds simple, but a healthy lifestyle is important to maintain a healthy sex life. Compromise is another important element of sexual communication, particularly in frequency of sex and particular acts that each partner finds satisfying. Remember that each party wants the other to enjoy themselves, and wants to know what is pleasing.About the Author:
