subject: Ominous Signs In A Marriage [print this page] Nicole blindsided Robert when she said she was leaving. "What?" he asked, unable to respond in any other way.
"You heard me," she said. "This marriage is over and nothing will save it." She flounced out of the room and locked herself in their library. He sank into a chair outside in the hall and waited, trying to absorb what she had said. Leaving? Why? He loved this woman. He would never leave HER. Why would she leave him? A businessman, his Blackberry chimed repeatedly, telling him that he had appointments, but in his dismay, he barely heard the sound, and when his secretary called, trying to find him, he didn't bother to answer her call.
All he could do was wait, as his mind whirled. It took her an entire hour to emerge. "Why?" he asked, his voice weak and small. What she told him blew him away. He continued to sit there stunned, as she walked out and drove away.
V:3 When he woke up the next morning, he called me. We spent a lot time on the phone and then in person sitting in a cafe and discussing his wife. As we went over what his wife had told him, things began to fall in place. There had been signs that he had missed all along the way.
The recipe to save his marriage was not difficult to put together, and he attacked it with the same fervor that made him a star in business. He was persistent and over time his wife responded, actually much sooner than he ever thought possible. Through persistence and constant attention he saved their marriage from the brink.
Usually before a marriage reaches a state of "limbo" or falls apart, SIGN LANGUAGE is all over the place, even if the verbal is not. Husbands and wives seem to figure if they just pretend that everything is okay, even when it isn't, the problems will somehow go away. Does this tactic ever work for anything? Like a volcano, they simmer, rumble around and build until they blow up.
STOP : The flow of communication has stopped. CAUTION: One partner has started to turn off. SLOW DOWN: Husband and wife spend very little time together. DETOUR: It is easy to get off track focusing on what you can get instead of give. OPEN DITCH: Romance is not a daily part of their lives. It's been reduced to sex. RED LIGHT FLASHING : It seems like the day goes from one argument to the next. DON'T PASS: They haven't a spiritual base. BUMPY ROAD: One of their children is becoming rebellious. MUDDY ROAD AHEAD : They take each other for granted. DANGER They don't laugh together much anymore. CURVES : Patience with each other has worn thin. There is a lot of criticism. LOOSE GRAVEL Finances and other life issues make things worse. WRONG WAY: One responds rudely when the other asks something. TUNNEL: One or the other feels sorry for herself/himself.
Warning signs - You can see them so what do you do? When you've hit a road block and can't figure out what to do, that's why we're here at Love Relationship Headquarters. We save marriages, strengthen marriages and turn marriages into relationships brimming with love - as they were when a couple started life together in the beginning.
Warning signs - You can see them so what do you do? When you've hit a road block and can't figure out what to do, that's why we're here at Love Relationship Headquarters. We save marriages, strengthen marriages and turn marriages into relationships brimming with love - as they were when a couple started life together in the beginning. We've had a lot of success in all three areas. We give you the guidance you need to recognize the danger signs. We show you what you can do, so that you can attack them in the right way and make your marriage work beautifully like never before.
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Dr Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
