subject: Rescuing A Marriage After An Affair - One Of The Things You Are Required To Do! [print this page] If you are saving a marriage after infidelity you know you are faced with a difficult battle not only with your partner but within yourself and with society in general. Trust that is destroyed and the betrayal and hurt of an affair mean that many people do not get along with each other and divorce follows. It will not end up like this if you do the right things step by step. Expect your marriage to go through rough time for sometime. You have to work your way to fix everything that has been wrecked.
One thing you need to do to save your marriage however is this: Focus on Yourself. This is not selfish, this is the only way for you to know what must come next which is facing the affair without flinching to know what went wrong which can start to help rebuild trust...but that is just making an assumption. You can only assume that it will be the sequence of events. If you want it that way, then do it step by step. Also give your partner the time to think about things as well.
First you must regain you self esteem. You must not be crushed by the cheating. You must instead be able to reflect on your feelings and be able to confront your partner without anger and resentment and jealousy. These emotions make you say and do things you wish you did not say or do and end hopes of proper communication. You do not want this to occur. You should acknowledge that you have also done something wrong. What happened to your marriage did not just happen because only one of you did something wrong. Both of you have are responsible for the destruction of your marriage, therefore it needs both of you to make it work once more.
This is obviously not as easy as it sounds but what it does is stop you from trying to rush into things without being prepared. If you start trying to talk with a partner who will cause you to flare up you will damage your ability to get them to tell you about the affair which is essential for the healing to take place. Try to keep calm when you plan to talk about things. Outbursts of anger will never help. A more calmed atmosphere will help you go through things out much better.
For more information and advice on Saving a Marriage After Infidelity please check out my site and learn from my story of how I overcame the demons of jealousy and resentment to forgive my wife and enable us to grow even closer than we have ever been. The lessons I learned can also help you do the same.
