subject: Sex Education And Children [print this page] Outsourcing sex education in abstinence-only or abstinence-until-marriage states is not impossible for me to believe; community and faith-based groups receive more federal funds to promote abstinence-until-marriage than state governments by a ratio of approximately three to one. The school boards can hire outsiders to deliver their message and be compliant, without hiring certified sex educators, and they spend the money they would allocate for sex education towards something else.
Sex education is something that happens in stages. A three-year-old child might be satisfied when he is simply told that the father provides the seed that grows into a baby. However, by the time he is five, he might want to know how exactly it got there. Here again, parents should remember to keep it simple. After all, he is only five. Explain to him that the seed comes out of the father's penis and is deposited in the uterus where the baby will grow for the next nine months.
It is believed that Indian people are very much orthodox about sex and sex related issues. But if the existence of the temples of Khajuraho is any evidence, the people of India were not so taboo-oriented about sex and education about sex. In ancient India it was believed that when we go near to the God, we must be pure and empty of all of our desires, including the desire to have sex. So in these temples a devotee would see the carvings depicting the sexual poses. This would make the minds of devotees empty of such desires, as they believed that once we know about any subject we do not run blindly before that.
The second thing that we need to discuss when it comes to sex education is the foreplay part of sex. You cannot skip this unless you are having a quickie in the closet at a wedding or something. On a regular day in a regular situation in your bedroom you need to give her at least 15 minutes of foreplay. This is an absolute minimum and you need to let her make the decision as to when it has been enough. Give, give, and give her more and she will amaze you with what she is willing to do for you.
Whether you like it or not, you as the parent are the child's sex educator and they have been learning from you the day they were born.The schools teach anatomy, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy and there is so much more to sex education than that. The moral and emotional aspects of sex have to be addressed and this can only be done at home.Most parents don't realize it but they are constantly teaching, not only by what they say, but how they act, say and do.
In the absence of sex-education at school or home, let there be display of audio cassettes which should be followed by video cassettes. Whatever the student has heard and, at a latter stage, when video cassettes are played, he would be able to correlate the audio and video versions. At this stage, the teacher should step in and reply to queries of his students and if all the inquisitive queries have been aptly replied to, the students will gain a lot.
