18 Things You Must Avoid Saying To A Lady On First Sight Or Risk Loosing Her
18 Things You Must Avoid Saying To A Lady On First Sight Or Risk Loosing Her
You just met that dream lady, some one you've been dreaming to meet and date for long now, she probably gave you the green light and some how you got the chance to chat her up. Now below is a check list of eighteen things you mustn't say to her or stand the heart ache of loosing her forever.
You are Fat: this is one thing you should never say to her, telling her she is fat means that she looks awful, unattractive and out of shape. Even if it is obvious, or probably you think you are giving her a compliment; she will disregard this compliment, instead taking it for insult.
You look Lean, are you Sick?: why should you be this flippant and uneconomical with words: are you a doctor? And even if you were one, it is against ethical standard and practice to make reference to a patient's health condition no matter what. Come to think of it, if you tell her she looks lean and maybe ill, there are three possible things she thinks you are trying to tell her
- She is pregnant
- She is suffering from a very serious Ailment (maybe HIV)
- She is malnourished and looks hungry
Is that Fat Lady/man your Sister/Brother?: saying this can put her off immediately; it looks as if you are trying to tell her that her family members are unhealthy and obese, and are such she looks like them; ladies hate this kind of observation or question. Many will see it as an insult to her family, and won't hesitate to shun you before you start hauling the same insults at them.
How old are you?: Most women wants to be treated like a baby, in this regard asking her how old she is makes her look old, and probably unwanted. Never ask any lady her age, it is not something you should talk about, remember this "age is just a number" or what do you think?
Are you a Virgin: this is a question you should never ask her, especially while out on your first date, it makes her feel quite uneasy and cheap, she'll want to either skip the topic if she still thinks you are great company or hop on the next bus home.
Hey! You look like my Ex: the last thing any lady wants to hear you talk about is an ex, comparing her to your ex means she's not good enough for you or better still you both will still end the way you ended with that Ex, so avoid the X-Factor bro!
I am an Applicant, still looking for a Job Opening: no lady want to move with a broke ass guy. Every woman desires every thing good, jewelry, cars, ornaments, nice home, beautiful kids and above all a rich husband that will provide and protect her; but if the reverse where to be the case, my friend it is time you looked else where.
I'm still Saving to Buy a Car: Borrowing these lines from TLC's song "I don't want no scrub, a scrub is the guy that can't get no love from me, hanging on the passenger's side of his best friend ride try to holler at me". It is not a must that you must own a car, but then it is an added advantage, most ladies love to hop into the front seat while you both cruise, painting the town red, or scrubbing it (if you do not have one).
Is that your Boss you are talking to?: trying to make it look like you care about her career when all you where trying to find out if she is dating her boss makes it look like you wouldn't trust her; one thing most ladies hate is lack of trust, once she feels this; then you will be on her ex list.
I don't have the time to talk more, maybe some other time: When will that time ever come?, telling a lady this especially when the conversation you where having was just beginning to pick up, the excitement building up to unimaginable heights, only for you to cut it off with some odd excuse of not having the time to continue what you just started, it's comparable to taking someone on a jolly ride and leaving the person in the middle of no where. Every woman deserves all the time she requires of you, she wants you to be there in the morning, there in the noon and there for all times. Leaving abruptly for the first time will make her start having a rethink that maybe she deserves a better deal than what you can offer.
This clothes don't fit, they look tight on you: Who are you to tell her this? Calvin K, Ralph Lauren or Giorgio Armani? How do you know what fits and what doesn't. The clothes might look tight based on your judgment, but it would rather be nice if you left things as they were instead of meddling into affairs that are of no concern of yours, remember you are just chatting her for the first time, so there's no reason to make this your prerogative, period!
You sound just like "cuckoo" my pet Parrot: Just liken this to the lady telling you of her pet chimpanzee that look every inch like you. Telling her this is another way of saying "shut up, you talk too much", which means that all she's said or still saying is nothing but cooked up rubbish. Instead of saying this, it would have been nicer if you changed the topic that is making her to scream to the top of her voice.
Can I call my Mum?: Calling your mum means that you are still like a teddy bear wishing to be pampered, it also means that you are not matured enough to take decisions as they affect your life. If you are not matured enough, it means that you cannot provide the shoulders for her to lean on in times of trouble, she'll leave and kick it off with some one far more matured than you, of course who nobody wants a teddy bear?
You look Dull, is this how you always are?: of course she might look dull, telling her this so bluntly makes her look like a daft and insecure girl, waiting to be tossed around just by any one that catches fancy of her, rather brighten her up with funny and witty conversations like "from the place I come Angels don't look this dull, I wonder is here is any different" indirectly you are referring to her as an Angel, and this is an irresistible comparison, one that can make her jump off her skin. Trust me.
Is this really your Picture that looks this beautiful or someone else's?: oh come of it, remember she invited you over to her place for the first time to see more of her person and not for you to start comparing her with of all people her very "self". Telling her this means she does not look any good like the person in the picture, meaning that she is not beautiful. Nothing upsets a woman like letting her know of her real physical attributes, especially one that reminds her of certain imperfections she'd love to change.
You sound like my Boss in the Office: What you are saying in a nut shell is "you are nag", comparing her to your boss means she is disrespectful and difficult like all bosses. If you notice is a little bossy, it'd be cool if you said it this way "you really are a woman of strength and character, I could use you for a boss" this is a more polite way to tell her of the obvious.
Oh! this awful. looks like you keep late Nights, that's why you wake late: she'd be thinking in her mind, it seems this guy thinks I'm a slut or even some cheap ass whore, who can get laid by every Tom, Dick and Harry. Even if she did sleep late and looks it, being the first time it'd be wrong to say or take notice of that. In as much as she 'll love to be yours, she still needs a little space or call it privacy.
Oh! You are very beautiful, are any of your friends like you: Even if looked beautiful and alluring like Drew Barrymore or some Hollywood Hotie, she'd still feel you'd prefer her friend, no lady would like to be compared to another, more so on the very first time you both had contact.
These are 18 things any right thinking guy must not say to any lady especially on the first time you both met.
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