3 Small Moves that Will Change Your Marriage Forever After Cheating
3 Small Moves that Will Change Your Marriage Forever After Cheating
Cheating can take a huge toll on your marriage but there are three small moves you can make that will change your marriage forever even after you've cheated on your spouse.
Most people don't realize how wonderful their marriages really are until they reach the breaking point. It's only when you walk the razor's edge and realize how wonderful your life really was when compared to what it could be like on the other side that you understand how much you stand to lose if you were to lose your marriage and the family you've worked hard to create.
It's not easy to walk away from a marriage whether it's been five years, fifteen years, or twenty-five years. It shouldn't be easy to walk away. Marriage is a commitment that takes a lot of love and time to build. It can't be torn down with a few bad choices or hurtful words. But there are things that can tear it down and cheating is one of those "things" for many marriages.
Don't get me wrong. Cheating is a BIG DEAL. It's big enough to be grounds for divorce. In many cases it is the grounds for divorce. But, in your case, it doesn't have to be if you are willing to do whatever it takes to work it out.
The good news is that you're not going to have to dance around naked underneath a full moon shouting chants into the wind. Nothing as exciting as all that is needed if you want to save your marriage after cheating.
It really is a simple matter that can be summed up in three teeny tiny little moves. What are they?
1) Think about your words before you say them. It's more than just a "he said; she said" sort of thing. Words empower. Words create. Words inspire. Words tear down. Words rip apart. Words destroy. Choose your words carefully from this point forward and see what a difference it makes to your marriage.
2) Make your deeds uplifting to yourself and your spouse. Give compliments freely. Make pats on the back par for the course. Make every effort to give a hand up rather than a hand out. Show your spouse how much love you have rather than telling your spouse about it.
3) Start making plans for the future. The future of your marriage is at stake. If you want to save your marriage after cheating one of the best ways to do that is to sit down together and set goals and make plans for the future. When you are making plans as though you expect there to be a future for the two of you it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.