3 Things Not to Do After a Breakup - Especially If You Ever Want a Chance With Them Again
3 Things Not to Do After a Breakup - Especially If You Ever Want a Chance With Them Again
I'm sure there are some things that you want to do after a breakup and you might have a very hard time stopping yourself but here's why you should avoid doing these top 3 impulsive things.
1. Talking crap and sharing personal stories about them to everyone you see.
Not only does this make you look like a small person in the eyes of whom you are telling the stories to but it is making them look bad and could possible ruin their reputation or life. Things have a way of getting spread around.
If you end up talking about the illegal thing they did at work you could end up getting them fired. If you talk about the nasty things they used to say about their best friend then they could lose their friend.
You may say "Who cares! I want them to get fired or lose their friends!" but doing this will not only ruin your chances for every having a decent relationship with them again but it may cause them to retaliate and do something worse to you. Plus it's just plain mean and wrong. You may feel good about it at the moment but you may regret doing it later on in life when you are completely over the breakup.
2. Ruin their personal things.
Chances are you have something personal of theirs that they would probably like back and you are thinking about burning, breaking, or destroying it. Don't. Give it back to them or a mutual friend and get on with your life.
I once saw a guy destroy furniture of his girlfriends after she moved out. This not only cost her tons of money to replace it all but it made him a complete jerk in her eyes and she was never able to forgive him even after he wanted her back.
3. Stalk them.
Nowadays we have more ways than ever to stalk someone. We can check out what they are doing on Facebook or follow their tweets on twitter. There are countless social sites out there where chances are you can find out about anyone and what they are up to.
Stalking not only poses the risk of you looking crazy if they find out but it also prolongs your misery by showing you what you are missing out on or how they are moving on with their life. These are things that make it hard to get over the breakup and move on.
So avoid stalking them on and off the computer and instead focus on getting on with your life and what you are doing.
Doing these three things just shows that you can't let go of them and that the breakup was the right thing to do because you have turned out to be mean, spiteful, and uncaring. It helps them get over the breakup faster because you have proved it worthy and it leaves you dealing with the feelings of the breakup for longer because of the anger.
So if you don't want to appear like this and suffer through the breakup longer than you have to then just let it be and move on.