A Working Mother's Guilt

A Working Mother's Guilt

A Working Mother's Guilt

When it comes to motherhood, there is one issue that women must deal with and which is the source of constant debate- being a Stay At Home Mom or a Working Mom. Today there are huge pressures facing women and for many, returning to work is a necessity in order to keep afloat financially. More than that, though, many women find that by the time they have their children, they have established a career that they are reluctant to leave behind, no matter how much they love their children.

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Having the luxury' to decide whether or not to return to work after maternity leave can be difficult. Many women feel guilty at wanting to work and may find that they begin to over-compensate at the weekends, or often feel reluctant to discipline their children because they don't spend as much time with them as they feel they ought to. On the other hand, women who feel pressured into staying at home with their children can feel resentful at giving up their identity as a working woman. It seems that the decision to work or to stay at home is never an easy one to make.

Financial Restraints

For many women though, returning to work is not an option and the life of the Stay At Home Mom seems very appealing indeed. Financial demands, being a single parent and career pressures can all contribute towards a new mom returning to work and can also make the whole process very difficult. The working mom also has the expense of childcare to consider and this can sometimes cost almost as much as she is able to earn in a month.

Financial reasons aside, many women choose to return to work as they have a job they enjoy and a career they have worked hard to achieve. For these women, returning to work was never questioned. But that doesn't mean that they aren't faced with the same guilt as the mom who wants to stay at home and can't.

Finding Childcare

Finding appropriate childcare can be difficult and can cause stress for many moms when they return to work. It is important to feel comfortable with whoever is going to be looking after your child and so the whole process can take time to get right. This comes with added worries that your child will be unhappy or will resent you for leaving them; actually, most children are ready for the company of others by around the age of six months, which is the average time to return to work for most women.

Feeling Guilty

With childcare sorted and working hours negotiated, many women are still feeling guilt at returning to work and it seems that this is not about to change quickly. Society views women as the main carer for children and so women naturally feel guilty when they leave this care to someone else. Whether it is personal or financial, returning to work is never easy for new moms.

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