Are You Aware How Your Past Effects Your Divorce Support?
Are You Aware How Your Past Effects Your Divorce Support
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Think about it. Have you ever heard someone sing karaoke to your favorite song or heard a remix of it? It's not too great, is it? They're off beat, they change the beat or melody, or change the lyrics around. And what happens when you try to sing along? YOU"RE NOW OFF. But imagine...what if the whole time you've been singing your favorite song or reading from your favorite movie "script"...and YOU have been the one who had the incorrect beat, lyrics, melody, or lines! It's like when you go to Europe as an American - what do most Americans say when it's their first time there? "You're driving on the WRONG SIDE of the street!" Yes, but according to WHO?!
In fact, did you know there's some very popular Star Wars lines which for DECADES die-hard fans have been quoting - and have been WRONG
in the line they've been quoting! They've been misquoting their favorite line, from their favorite scene, from their favorite movie, that they've watched since they were a little kid for the past 20+ years! How can this be?!
Easy, they simply MISINTERPRETED the information they've been receiving and NO ONE HAS CORRECTED THEM! And THEY DONT'EVEN REALIZE THEY'RE
QUOTING THE WRONG LINE. And this isn't just with Star Wars; there's other popular movies and songs this happens with all the time!
Welcome to how your past influences your present and your future!
Let me share a story with you to really drive this point home. In my parent's home, the original home owner had built a outdoor brick BBQ.
This was back in the 60s he had done this and so we never used it; we always used propane BBQ's (and yes, propane IS better :) ). I had wanted a outdoor fire pit for awhile, but, fortuanately and unfortunately, we also had a covering over our back patio so the smoke would simply stay in the patio and everyone would have buring eyes and coughing.
Well, one day I realized the outdoor BBQ had a chimmney. And since it had a chimmney that meant the smoke wouldn't be trapped in the patio.
I talked to my mom about it and she said I could try it out as a fire-pit...and I did, that very night. Well, my mom didn't like that very much, in fact, she just about flipped out, which shocked me since she said I could try it.
As a matter of fact, it actually became a huge argument between us with my mom shutting down, walking away from me, and refusing to talk about
what was going on with her and why she was acting the way she was.
Weeks later, I found out when she was first married her first house had practically burnt down...from a next-door fire. She was at the movies
with her sister and they paged her on the intercomm. When she took the phone call it was another neighbor telling her her house (my mom's) was
on fire.
That fire happened over 40 years ago! Yet still it had a dramatic and powerful impact on her. So much so she completely overreacted to a contained fire, in a BBQ built for fire - with a Duraflame log, no less - and she KNEW WHAT I WAS DOING. What caught her off guard is she didn't know I was going to have a fire that very night. All she saw when she looked outside were the flames...and it "triggered" her memory from the past when her house UNEXPECTEDLY caught on fire.
...And her past suddently came FLOODING into the present...as if the past event and present even was EXACTLY THE SAME. When your past is "triggerd"
most people don't have a conscious memory they're actually "recalling" from their conscious mind. Instead, the past which floods into the present
is most often represented by a "flood of emotions". What this means to you is if there's ever been a time where you overreatcted, or someone told
you you overreacted; you felt an intense amount of emotions, or felt something extraordinarily stong; suddenly "shut down" and couldn't talk about
something any more; or is seemed like you were hearing someone elses's voice in your head - even though the someone talking wasn't that same person; or "knew" something would just turn out a certain (negative) way - this is your past effecting your current feelings, decisions, actions, attitude,
thoughts, beliefs, & choices.
Don't miss out on the third part of this article where I begin to show you what you CAN do to neutralize the past's destructive effects in your
present - and future!
P.S.: If this article was helpful to you, encouraged or supported you, or if you learned something new or were reminded of something
you needed to be reminded of - let me know! I'd love to hear from you!! Also, if you think it would benefit someone you care about, please do them a favor and "pass it on!"
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